「性感無極限」Being sexy, be happy

Being sexy, be happy

25-9-205

It was my first time to touch sexy and sex topic in a wide angles and different prospective. Our DP Golden Presenter Esther opened our eyes to see this when most of us never mention it ever since we were born.

Esther challenged Chinese taboo on sex issues by giving us super thought-provoking, fun night.

What is “sexy” mean to me?

When driving on a freeway, creating hypnosis scripts and MP3s, when jogging, dancing and reading books and watching a touching movie, when sharing with friends and when working on what I love, when helping others, being more aware of myself and others, finding answers suddenly, having an interesting dreams or even nightmares for reflection, I feel sexy.

Be myself, trust my subconscious mind and excel my potential. That is “sexy” means to me.

So being sexing is to be attractive, happy, creative, free and joyful, confident and empowered moment to me. Of course, a stylish dress or suitable appearance for a particular environment will let me feel sexy …

So being sexy is a state of mind, we can create it anytime.

But I also found my dark shadow: Since marriage and having a child, being as a mother dominated my life. I am not a lover anymore.

SEX: wow, I have never ever thought about it seriously. It is a big issue to me or many couples. I just realized this.

Esther is right, being a lover forever is a criterion for a happy marriage, not just for fun or a process before marriage but an important role in our whole life.

Every day to give our partners some refreshment will create a relaxing environment and organic happiness.

Be a love no matter what phrase of life you are, be sexy, and be happy.

I determine to love myself, love my partner and love my family and give more to people …

DP同學會九月「性感無極限」

每個人，都有大情大性的部份！九月份，同學會誠意邀請你回來DP大家庭，結伴踏上情性之旅，通過「愛情零極限」，奔向「性感無極限」，大幅提升（或重新接通）自己的性感魅力！

同學會已邀得多才多藝的Esther Lee (DP15)
帶領我們穿梭這個情性之旅。Esther曾在跨國機構任職管理層，現為企業培訓導師及親子品格理財教育者，並擔任網台節目主持人。她廣學多聞，言談大膽，肯定會為我們引爆一個開心、難忘且豐收的晚上！

你／妳今天性感咗未？

未？快啲call 幾個同學仔，相約9‧25一齊番嚟啦！

日期：2013年9月25日(星期三)
時間：晚上7:30-10:00
地點：DP 會址 (灣仔皇后大道東43號東美中心2107室)

華山吸引力法則及零极限工作坊

這可能是我第三次聽華山講吸引力法則,每次都有新的啟示.

 

 以下是我的理解和從中得到的一些啟示

吸引力法則是講信念,每個人都有一些核心的信念,影響整個一生;

有什麼信念就有什麼行動, 有什麼行動就有什麼結果, 有什麼結果就有什麼命運!

每個信念背后都會有起因;每個人都自覺或不自覺地去找理據去支持自己的信念,用行動証明他的信念.

潛意識是信念的土壤,但它不會分正負,正面的信念帶來正面的結果和命運,相反,結果可想而知.

每天平均有一個人九萬句自我對話,看下那些是forward,那些是backward,那些是正面的,那些是負面的,就可以估計到將來的行动和命運.

華山說:我不會得到我想要的,我只會的到我相信的.

我一直在想這句話,很有哲理,但為什麼這樣說呢?

在今晚的工作坊,我忽然明白:

想是意識的層面,相信是潛意識的層面;

大部分人只想而沒有行動,可能是因為想的背后有雜念,有backward 的”阻力”:如果不…就會…,如果有…就可以…大部分的”想”帶有太多受外界的因素影響而隨時會放棄;我也時常有這樣的問題.

而當將”想”提升到信念上,我們天生的動力-

童真的無畏無懼,創造力,想象力就會層現出來,外在條件就不在是檔住前路的借口.

 NO excuse, NO limits!

沒有借口,沒有極限

如何才能將"想"變成信念呢?

 Zero Limits – 零極限就是一個很有效轉化的工具:

我理解每句話的背后,會帶有著樣的意義:

 對不起: 開始接受自己的錯誤,面對自己的問題: 發現這是唯一的出路

請原諒我: 寬恕自己,寬恕別人,放下包袱

我愛你: 懂得愛自己,愛別人,發放正能量,吸引正能量;用宇宙的大愛.

謝謝你:感恩,找到力量和更多資源,整合好,move forward!

 I found that whenever I have emotions, pains, I murmur

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you!

Then I can much easier to see things from wider angles and new prospective, afterwards, I am much freer and lightened up, less painful feelings physically, more focused and fearless mentally.

Zero Limit and Law of Attraction help people to turn negative beliefs, limiting decisions to positive.

Just let it go and then move forward.

http://www.wikihow.com/Use-the-Law-of-Attraction

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_attraction

http://www.secret-lawofattraction.com/how-the-law-of-attraction-works-the-how-and-the-why/

23-9-2013

「華人生命轉化歷程」分享會 - How Life influences life

Just participated in the sharing meeting. SO touching. One of my life coaches Red was one of the speakers. I was so excited.

I thank her/all of the speakers, Mr Liu and Wah Shan, Sally, Jenny and all...
A sharing or Life influence life. 

Dear Red,

All of u speeches touched our hearts. Thank you all indeed for giving us such an unforgettable sharing.

 When you said your father found only u could understand her most, I was tearful with joy and enlightenment.

I am so grateful for my happy childhood and what all I have got.

Sometimes i forget this and feel weak and sad. I am too small ...

Still need to learn from  A to H.

Will be more  mindful for what i think and say and the influence to people around. Esp. Starting from family.

What a day !

With love.

22.9.2013

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chinese-In-Action-%E8%8F%AF%E4%BA%BA%E8%A1%8C%E5%8B%95/166646290070911

「華人生命轉化歷程」分享會

在個人成長的歷程裡，最關鍵往往是生命轉化的體驗。要創造真正的生命轉化，就需要了解並處理自己成長的個人與社會文化的根源。而在華人社會裡，原生家庭對個人的成長經歷，以至整個人格價值觀的形成，影響深遠，是所有華人生命自我突破的重要關口，非常值得我們重視。

「華人生命轉化歷程」分享會，是一次非常難得的珍貴機遇，讓我們聆聽到來自中、港、台以及馬來西亞的華人，真情而深刻分享其生命轉化的心路歷程。他們的真實經歷和反思，將啟發我們進一步探索並了解生命轉化的關鍵竅門。

這次分享會，將會讓參加者從寬宏的視野與角度，重新檢視自己，解開糾結多年的難題與疑團，讓我們清晰許多個人問題背後的文化元素、社會根源和家庭動力。這是一個充滿喜悅、啟發、感動和力量的分享會。

分享會主持 ：  周華山博士 (自在社創辦人、義務導師兼總幹事)

嘉賓主持     ：  劉仁州老師 (台南市家庭情緒智商發展協會創會理事長)

語言             ：  嘉賓分享以普通話進行；小組分享按參加者選用的語言來分組（普通話、廣東話）

日期             ：  2013年9月22日（星期日）下午2 - 6 pm

地點             ：  自在社（香港灣仔皇后大道東43號東美中心2107室）

費用             ：  20元

報名             ：  請按此 / http://goo.gl/xMqhQq

嘉賓主持簡歷：

劉仁州老師，台灣(台南市)家庭情緒智商發展協會創會理事長、現任常務理事。1953年出生，台灣國立師範大學數學系畢業。1984年起從事關懷社會需要的志願工作。自1993年開辧父母效能訓練，20年間擔任數十個生命成長課程系列(合共近1000個課程次)的資深導師，主持課程包括「走出成長的迷思」、「心靈地圖」、「幸福童年的秘密」、「生命潛能」、「生命敏感度訓練」等。2000年開始培訓導師，帶領各類個人成長、家庭治療工作坊。2006年，劉老師出席上海社科院的「志願精神與義工建設－ 2006上海慈善理論」研討會，並在會上發表從事志願者23年心得報告。此後每年撥出兩個月時間到中國內地為慈善公益團體負責人及志願者進行「生命成長課程」和「生命敏感度」培訓。

My learning and practice on hypnosis 我的催眠路

点滴分享：

  咪埋眼，看到的世界更新，更廣，更深，更有趣！

曾經在DP華山堂上聽到一句話，人生要走的最長的路是從人的心靈到頭腦！

我想，也许，通過自我催眠，我們可以將這條路縮減到一小段。

催眠是意識和潛意識的橋梁。

走進潛意識，看到自己的小我和浩瀚的潛能。

http://hypnosisindex.com/

只有跨越小我，才能發揮無限的潛能。

要跨越小我，就要 學習，將不健康的習慣、行為做大改革！

如何改變才不是煙花效應？不是知而不做。或今做明天便打回原形?

那就是潛意識的改變！做自我催眠可以帮到自己!

做自我催眠，就是visualize 改變已發生，然后就自然發生, 從內心開始。

所以我喜歡做自我催眠，因為我可以看到不一樣的自己和別人，世界！真的從里面/外面看自己，也多角度看世界！

 更可以啟動潛意識機能,效率奇高,特別是用在創意工作,,學習和改漏習方面.

沒有任何課程或講座可以睡一睡，又學東西，又參與，又分享，除了上催眠堂！這是我愛上催眠课的原因之一. 

望有機會与同学们分享我的催眠路: my learning and practice on hypnosis.

Note: 咪埋眼是比喻關上意識的眼睛,減少judgmental ideology, 卻打開了潛意識的天窗.

華山 用了大量催眠演講方法,令人较容易進入潛意識,看自己.

中秋節快樂!

Donna

My reflection on NLP tools – Parts Integration and Timeline

7-9-2013

I use Parts Integration quite often to make myself more congruent whenever I am not sure what to do esp. when troubling by conflicts inner parts.

Most of the time, negative parts/behavior/emotions on the surface is really annoying and make me less productive, energetic, but I do see their second gains and benefits behind. However holding them surely is a limiting decision and I cannot wholeheartedly move forward to my dream.

Parts Integration is powerful tool. By asking why and chasing the ultimate purpose of the less ideal parts, one can realize such an inner child/ugly/worrying duck has an inner beautiful, lovely heart: all she deeply concerns about is health, love and happiness…, not only for self but a family as a whole. This is really a touching finding.

And positive parts are usually conscious part - more optimistic and hopeful, daring guy with obviously ideas for the positive outcome. However he needs other parts in the subconscious mind to support him. 

So once both are in alignment, belonging to a big integrated part - conscious and subconscious mind are in a same direction for a big, common goal, the synergy is one the way. It might be called the universal power.

Wonderful tool. I love it.

http://www.caroltalbot.me/parts-integration-how-to-end-bad-habits

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GzzZsb9bxf0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLtiHsvt1NI

Another tool is Time Line.

By intuition, I found emotional health people (with habit of reflection) use it daily almost to release anger, sadness or any unhealthy feelings.

However, long lasting anger, grief, sadness, hatred, guilt/jealousy are rooted from our imprint period (0-7 years old) usually. They are not easily removed. Need plenty of practice, as a habit.

The key is how to immediately clean off or avoid dark shadow in our imprint periods?

It has to be done by proper parenting. Parents, family are the first environment to produce positive/negative emotion and thus positive/limiting belief in childhood, which is to planting into adulthood and to the end of life.

 From many cases, I found an open, optimistic, well communicative, caring, loving and relaxing family will be the best environment for kids to grow healthily with much less deep-root limiting value for them to suffer in their the future.

To be a good parent is so crucial for our new generation to grow healthily and happily; meanwhile, every adult has an inner child in their mind. To be a responsible, loving, caring inner parent is crucial as well for our inner child to grow up and in congruence with our adult development, instead of a block on the way to happiness, fulfillment…

http://excellenceassured.com/nlp-training/nlp-certification/re-imprinting

http://www.janecohencounseling.com/content/nlp-counseling-services

http://seedreiki.reiki.com/tlt.html

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkIqtDBzkhs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLtiHsvt1NI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DyRfpod2fxw

Switch pattern

Quality of life is quality of the dialogue with our inner child

Summary and my refection on INNER CHILD COMMUNICATION

What inner child? Who is he/she? Inner child is a metaphor of our adults’ sub-personality that still stays in childhood, housing child-like and adolescent behavior, memories, emotions, habits, attitudes and thought patterns.

On the positive side, inner child is parts of our adults’ beauty - creative, curious, adventurous, imaginative and daring to try, learn and discover new things, optimistic, innocent, and cheerful. They know how to have spontaneous fun, and are relatively free of guilt and anxiety.

Unfortunately, with age increasing, our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, creativity, audacity, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness are blurred or even killed. This reminds me how to be a good parent - How could nurture our kids to stay in such positive capacity when they grow into adult? As this will definitely affect their quality of life and happiness. If an adult has lost part of their inner beauty, it is never too late to reclaim their childhood joy and recreate their potential to be creative and adventurous. I am sure if we want to be happier in the rest of our life, we need to communicate with our inner child, especially to learn from their infinite imagination power and fearless spirit.

On the negative side, inner child tends to be autonomous (self-directed), their own needs, desires, issues and goals are in first priority. This might lead to rather destructive behavior -impetuous, impulsive quality of childish petulance (moodiness) or narcissistic (egoistic) temper tantrums.

Or an infantile neediness, dependency, and dread of abandonment.

Or an irresponsibility and angry refusal to be an adult.

Unhappy childhood is the rooted cause for the twisted personality:

·      The Abandoned childhood

·      The Neglected childhood

·      The Spoiled childhood

·      The Fearful Childhood

·      The Disconnected

·         The Discounted Childhood 

A maure personality of adults understand that the past traumas, sadness, disappointments and depression cannot be changed and must be accepted. Those days are over. What was done cannot be undone. We should not as adults now expect others to meet all of these unfulfilled childhood needs. They cannot. Authentic/reliable  adulthood requires both accepting the painful past and the primary responsibility for taking care of that inner child's needs, for being a "good enough" parent to him or her now--and in the future.

As a responsible adult and continuous growing up adult, they can bear character of acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and parenting one's own inner child.

Holding our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers is like carrying emotional baggage, how well is the quality of life is able to be expected?

Obviously, our quality of life is our quality of communication with our inner child. The more we love ourselves, the better we communicate with our inner child. To learn how to communicate with our inner child is a life long learning.

By initiating and maintaining an ongoing dialogue between the two, a reconciliation between inner child and mature adult can be reached. A new, mutually beneficial, cooperative, symbiotic relationship can be created in which the sometimes conflicting needs of both the adult self and inner child can be creatively satisfied.

http://blog.fashionguide.com.tw/765/posts/24061

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evil-deeds/200806/essential-secrets-psychotherapy-the-inner-child

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/09/23/6-steps-to-help-heal-your-inner-child/

3-9-2013