Wednesday, September 16, 2020

把自己好好愛回來

Helen,

I really feel for you in a very tough situations with your brother's relationship.

Last night our talks was very deep and reflection. Here is a summary of what learned and some ideas for your reference:


你媽媽最後的日子對你的忠言,牢牢記住,看到媽媽的對你愛是那麼深,你是在愛的擁抱下長大的。相信爸爸也有好多愛,但不懂表達。


你可以和爸爸談談,如果找到機會,表達你的愛,雖然不能照顧他,但你深深愛著他。


和弟弟的關係的融冰過程,可能很漫長,但相信愛的力量,可以化解一切,不帶期望,表達出來,給他認同和讚美,給他極度匱乏的愛。


寫信,寫給自己,媽媽和爸爸,寫給弟弟。有很大幫助。


看看有沒有機會給弟弟一些經濟上的幫助。


以下blog,對你有幫助,我想。每天都會有各種矛盾和衝突,如何handle?對工作和家庭都有幫助:


聽懂弦外之音,減少溝通僵局


https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2020/09/blog-post_21.html


今天和先生一起學習溝通的態度和方法,通過聽一本好書的講解:


他的語言中傷看成對自己的磨練。有句話,我常常在在心裡: 

I say to myself every time i encounter others' emotion breakup and to take the responsibility of my emotion. If I am insulated, I can have choice not to be hurted. I can have bad feeling but that can disappear soon once I acknowledge my feelings.





this applies to feeling others' feelings , empathy 你感受到他也是受害者,同情他的内在小孩,这非常大的breakthrough 为你鼓掌

如何將哀傷變成正能量?

和朋友傾談,她說:”媽媽走之前半年,告訴他,要好好愛自己“。這句話,沒想到,成為媽媽給她永別的最後忠言說著,哽咽,很感動,彷彿媽媽人在身邊照顧他。感受到自己仍然被愛,一種感受到愛的能力出來了!好有力量。
又讀起洪潮豐老師懷念媽媽的文章《八年了》
提醒我如何將哀傷變成正能量? I think,we still miss them forever, nevertheless, we can live our life well and move forward with their love in our hearts. 我起 Me Before You 電影裡我最喜歡的話:

16 9 2020

Monday, December 30, 2019

和JENNY探索梦境insights

12 12 2019 
今天您分享的三個小夢或記得的片段,每個都有很深insights,結合您的生命故事。我整理一下,是我的感受和启发,供参考:

你的影子的夢 ( 内在小孩)和这三个梦,特别是梁朝伟和清朝士兵的梦互相呼应,好有連結,
那個 内在小孩 夢:渴望有愛,有擁抱,關心和陪伴的心情,小女孩有一種孤獨的感覺。也算是一种童年阴影,需要好多安抚和拥抱。

然后獅子夢探索對恐懼,內在恐懼化作獅子。

其中也需要安撫被獅子嚇坏了的自己,她的無助感和害怕 ,聆聽她的感受,這是我最近比較注意,做得多些。我見到個案或夢主都相當需要這樣一個陪伴得過程,令他們可以疏解壓力,內心得矛盾,不知不覺,明白為什麼會有這樣得夢境( 噩夢是矛盾的產物,也是解決問題的靈感源泉),反映內心的自己不想這樣,夢中,睡覺都在找出路,找方法,或發出提醒和警示。 

特別是哀傷處理方面,解夢時需要大量的疏解和表達出來。 過程也是讓自己做回自己的內在父母,安撫,聆聽它的感受。这就是我讲的梦境治疗 - dream therapy。 掏出梦境,回到现实面对的挑战。用梦境得资源,提升面对困难,解决困难的能力。梦境往往提供了答案,隐喻故事的力量。

解梦过程,多些給自己認同,同理心,给自己empowerment
然后問下將來遇到這些,會有什麼回應和不同。

let the nightmare becomes a rehearsal of future challenges 

這個夢延續下去,帶出你現在的三個夢境片段。

以下是我的聯想: 

梁朝偉的溫柔好渴望有溫柔的聆聽,深度的溝通 

清朝士兵代表勇我聯想到被討厭的勇氣那本書

很想活出自己,同是有時介意別人的眼光? 討厭的是自己

士兵抱著小妹妹自己擁抱著內在小孩, 感到有力量,有後盾,有安全感。

一方面渴外在的支持和support,一方面內在也渴望自己更有力量,堅強些

老公的驚喜渴望有浪漫、溫情和驚喜,好美麗的女孩子。
你看看是否可以告訴老公,也許他會用他自己的方式給你更多的愛和驚喜。 
當然,我們都喜欢对方用我们自己喜歡的方式愛我们。

这三个梦境都有渴望被理解,被明白,渴望有聆听,深度沟通和需要支持

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獅子夢給我很多啟發和insights,因為有我的shadow,所以我可以分享說我學到的東西,
特別是是貓還是獅子的演繹,每個人都有自己的看法。我覺得這個夢和你其他兩個夢境 ( eagle /影子) ,
都是非常有代表性的,經典的,很想放在我的書中。

好感恩我們今天的分享,令我清晰很多,特別是你再次提醒和參與者的互動,時間很緊,如何控制

還有我的兩個夢 ( 黑房內的孩子被打罵和哭聲/睡眠窒息症的機器人)


好深刻。你問我,對我的影響和意義和啟發:非常好,雖然我知道夢境的來意,但潛意識要有更多的反省才有持續行動力。
再次感觉到夢境就是一個最好的內在父母,不斷敦促我,去改變,去愛自己。 

我更加觉得:夢境好像是黑暗的tunnel 中的一些影子,經過解夢,變成一點光,再透過解夢療癒,這曙光 就彷彿有力量穿透意識和潛意識結合成的三菱镜,散發出七彩繽紛的光芒。意思是
(多角度看情緒或身體,心靈的本質和美麗的潛能,動機或渴望),我形容是Dreams In Rainbow Effect.

Donna

With love

Jenny Feedback

错别字和标点符号都没有,匆忙中写下自己的感受去睡觉,多亏你可以明白我的意思。

"看你的email心裏感到陣陣溫暖 ,泛起感激和喜悅的心情。 就是把你的回应放在心坎裏遊蕩一下,回味深呼吸感受一番 ,
那些自己最想聽到的說話 。一方面很想外在的無條件,耐性的被對待 和支持;同時,渴望著內在更堅強, 有底氣 ,有後盾, 
不介意別人的看法。  也不算長的交談, 你竟可以把我的幾個夢連成有脈絡的發展,虧你做得到。👍👍👍
很喜歡你的比喻: Dreams in rainbow effect“
😍😍😍"

So Amazing,我们好有共鸣,你的梦境激发我思考自己的问题,有时自己压抑下去自己的渴望,那种渴望被聆听、被理解。
所以你的前几个和这三个梦境对我有impact,有feelings,
提醒我要听到自己内在的声音,有时真的要赞美自己多一些,即使没有外在的赞美。

我常常深深感到:你的梦,就是我的梦(梦想),但潜意识有很多是共同的,不一定从梦境发出,情绪也可以发出来。

我很少发有老公和我旅游的梦,因为旅游对他来说是他的创伤 ( 年轻时10年在海上工作,他视为孤独的年代,思念家人的苦,一直挥之不去,内疚不安),
他一听到travel就有火,我不敢奢侈他会和我旅游,
但我看到你的梦境,我想,去下浅水湾也不错,寻找当年的月光下的谈心...或者太阳下的温暖。

你看,你的梦真的好有inspiration....
with love


I would like to summertime parts of the basics in my dream therapy - 

1)清醒的我,與睡夢中「另一半的我」,有深刻的連繫,與現實生活中圍繞自己身邊發生的事情息息相關。    
    每個人都是獨一無二,夢更是千變萬化。人性化,個人化的解夢不是治療師去解,而是夢者和治療師的互動,
    陪同夢者找到心理那個獨特又有意義的連結!一起去探觸心靈深處,找到夢背後的真正意義。每個東 西,
   人物,在夢中都是像徵性出現,都有它獨特的意義和原因,和自己內在的需要,訴求,當下所面對的問題、
   困難和挑戰息息相關 。從夢境跳出現實生活,解決問題,另一個自己找到需要和渴望,更多可能性!
2)
 治療師具有同理心是一個重要解夢鑰匙。同理心就像是穿對方的鞋子,同步的,平等的,一起向心靈進發,
好像是自己在發夢一樣。 •解自己的夢,也同時需要同理心。準確的說,是要坦誠,真實地面對另一個自己,
感覺夢中的自己真實的感受,哪怕是醜惡的。謙卑學習自己,愛自己的過程,
最後發現醜惡的背後是最美麗的天使和最安全的靠山!

 3) Dreams are letters from our heart to our heart   

4) Dreams therapy is process of reading our inner letters and digest them, 
   turn their insights into life healing and transformation 

5)  In dreams we are rehearse to fulfill their our heart wishes;       

6) Dreams are rehearsal for future challenge  ( esp. in nightmares and working dreams 工作夢)

7) 夢境的每一個角色、symbol都有自己的一些character或自己的渴望或是自己shadow的倒影( golden shadow  and dark shadow)

8) Never stop at one level of a dream insight exploration. Its impact can last for long time, even whole life. After sometime when we retrospect the dream, we find new insight. 

 Dream insights are like onion structures. There are surface meaning and subtle meanings. Just like a prism which can split a day light into 7 different beams of light.
    I call it as Dream therapy in Rainbow effects. 

9) Free association and intuition is the most powerful keys to open our dream door.  
I used intuition in my childhood and when later I use free association to digest my dream meaning without knowing who is Freud and Carl Jung yet. 

This is collective subconscious mind power, everyone has!

10) Metaphor impact: everyone's dreams can refined into metaphors which can enlighten self and also create resonance for many people.


From 7), I found

1)梁朝偉的溫柔形象表達了你的渴望,得到溫暖,溫柔和認同。這是夢境中得到的補償,或fulfill your wish/dream
2) 同時,也看到自己也有這樣溫柔、慈悲的一部分,通過夢境,強化自己的golden character
3)勇士抱起小女孩,好像有一種極大的關懷和愛的需要,又是夢中的fulfillment,(想起Bessie  奪命狂奔的噩夢,最後被黑衣超人抱著,避免被殺。)
4)勇士精神,想起父母對我們的保護,這是你的內在父母,也是自己的一部分,讓自己建立起這種愛自己的能力
5) 海邊一個人,夢中見到先生給你的驚喜: 再次提醒自己有loneliness 的一面,需要被看到;      
    先生的出現,他是你自己的一部分.   提醒什麼?把自己分成兩個人,一個是內在的,潛意識的,一個是意識為主的,也許,是在提醒兩者的結合,好好的和另一個自己在一起。
    所有对说的以上的话,都是对我自己说的:你的夢提醒我要多多聆聽自己最core的渴望,需要,建立自己內在的父母,令自己更有韌性,堅強,背後,是更加溫柔的對待自己

想起Carl Jung的話:

Dreams are our most effective aid in building up the personality

So studying our dreams is to  train our ourselves to be a better person. Dreams are our inner trainer, coach, instructor and parents, who use their insights to enlightening us to build  better characters.
我喜歡用dream therapy to describe解夢rather than just dream interpretation, because Dreams are energy, power, our spiritual food, so we emphasize to utilize them after understanding their insights. Turning sleep sleep dream into transformation and self development is my motto to empower myself.

Donna  
 With Love and a big hug


Tuesday, December 24, 2019

憂鬱症、驚恐症在消失!

25 12 2019


受焦慮困擾的人常常是把negative imagination用的淋漓盡致,把fear放大,認為是真的,有的人出現panic心跳加速。或者用創傷綁住自己,還活在過去,一生都在索求愛,所以就難以開心,容易憂鬱和焦慮 (my case study )

跟進個案朋友的情況,攀談中,我慢慢發現,怎麼沒有那種容易激動?我說,如果是前幾星期的你,可能會把自己搞得很辛苦。你又進步了!

個案朋友興奮地告訴我,最近遇到不爽的事情,和自己的期望有很大落差時,(如別人沒有我想像得那麼對我好,或別人犯錯),我沒有大發脾氣,心跳發抖,頭痛到爆炸撕裂,我讓自己睡覺,平靜,休息一下,然後寫出來,把自己的看法寫出來,傳給對方,表達自己的心情,表達我對朋友的重視,沒有情緒了。朋友看了和我道歉,感謝我。
我說,你真的又進步了!這就是真正愛自己!

在數次的談話中,我細心聆聽她的敘事,發現她說的別人,其實都有自己困難,有的是家庭關係的困擾,有的是身體疾病,有的是工作繁忙,不能達到她的預期。我請她進入別人的感受,感受別人的感受,去思考,去想想,原來別人也用他們自己的方式去表達愛和友誼,只是沒有完全跟她的想法去做。

同理心,是一種能力,是愛自己和別人的能力,理解別人多一些,把情況客觀化,大大減少了盲點。因為多了同理心,最後是把自己愛回來了!

多從別人的角度看問題,就可以減少或化解期望帶來的失望!

焦慮和憂鬱、驚恐頭痛心跳也就大大減少,解決問題的能力,

從平靜自己,從理解別人開始了!

(幾次催眠治療,我教她學習放鬆,改善失眠,看來她不知不覺地應用起來!)



當一個人找回愛的能力,愛自己的能力,反思的能力,感恩的能力,很多問題都容易解決。
只要有愛,和自己的關係,和别人的關係就有了潤滑劑,
摩擦自然大大减少
(做個案中的啟示)

Tuesday, December 10, 2019

今天我們炫耀的……

今天我們炫耀的……

屈穎妍
2019-12-09

  近月友儕圍爐話聚,總少不了這樣的對白:
 
  「我的四十年老友退群了」
 
  「我跟老同學反面了」
 
  「我家的家庭群組吵架了」
 
  「太太跟女兒一星期沒說話了」
 
  「我只能跟兒子說:你做甚麼都好,總之千萬別犯法」……
 
  人與人之間的撕裂,始自佔中,到今年反修例暴亂再「發揚光大」,每一個人、每一個家庭,幾乎注定有幾段撕裂關係,就算父母子女兄弟姐妹顏色一樣,也會有些外甥子姪或家人的另一半,如嫂嫂、妹夫之類,因政見不同從此反目。
 
  有對夫婦,本來與兒子一家同住,退休後有兩個孫作伴,三代同堂,本應樂也融融。一場暴亂,讓他們與媳婦分了顏色,大家無話可說之後,媳婦更怕孩子被藍色的祖父母「洗腦」,一家四口決定搬離大宅,不讓孩子跟爺爺嫲嫲接觸,原本的熱鬧家庭,變成只剩兩老的孤寂冷清。
 
  從前朋友相聚,互說近況,總有個少不了的話題:
 
  「我家兒子剛考進中大。」「嘩,恭喜啊,你安樂了!」
 
  「我家女兒今年理大畢業。」「好了,孩子出身,你就開心啦!」……
 
  今年說到同樣話題,大家的反應卻是這樣的:
 
  「唉,我家兒子剛考進中大。」「哎呀,倒霉了。」
 
  「我家女兒今年理大畢業。」「弊了,這幾年的大學畢業生都沒人請。」
 
  從前親友炫耀的,是孩子唸甚麼學校:
 
  「她唸女拔」「他讀華仁」……
 
  今天我們炫耀的,是孩子屬甚麼顏色:
 
  「我好彩,個個孩子都正常。」
 
  「我慘了,一黃一藍,兩個一看新聞就吵架。」
 
  「夠我慘?孩子全黃,我在家連TVB都沒得看。」
 
  前幾天,聽到一個悲慟的消息,一位退休才三年的警察朋友,因得了抑鬱症自殺身亡。讓人傷痛的,是他的抑鬱症緣起,是因為擔心做警察的兒子。
 
  本來退休是享清福的開始,拿著長俸閒來找朋友飲飲茶、打打波、去去旅行,是很多退休警察的快活故事。可惜,他的退休日子遇上這場暴動,而他那當警察的兒子也是反暴的其中一員,於是,擔憂阿仔工作受傷、擔心家人被起底、憂心兒子放工遭伏擊,成了他每日閒來的胡思亂想。自己做過警察,更明白當差的凶險,憂心過度,變成抑鬱,鑽了牛角尖,一縱了結生命。
 
  這樣的悲劇,相信只是冰山一角,沒人會報導,但卻真實地存在。反修例暴動毀了香港法治,毀了一代人的價值觀道德觀,更毀了人與人之間的關係與互信。儘管小島表面上運作如常,但人心的摧毀,已在不知不覺間動搖著香港的命脈。

http://www.etnet.com.hk/mobile/tc/lifestyle/internationalaffairs/watwingyin/63341


Tuesday, November 26, 2019

APPLE case study and record

First section

24 11 2019 2.30 to 5.30 pm


Back group info

Apple message to her sister

[14:03, 11/23/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: I am sending you the message that I txt to my eldest sister . Then , a little bit of her txt to me .
[14:04, 11/23/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Don’t feel scare or shock after u read hers
[14:04, 11/23/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: May, I feel sorry for you .
God is very mercy on you after you had done so many horrible things to damage people's life . The accident that I had in LA while I was riding bicycle and two cars hit me . My broken bones caused my muscle cramped constantly n my neck degenerated very badly .
Why ?  Because u did not pay for my hospital bill n ; because you did not tell my parent's the true story of how serious I got .
I end up stayed at a horrible hospital for more than 3 months .  And no family ever came to see me.
Because of you never on time drove me to school; I had to ride bicycle to school .  You never treat me as your sister ; you only used me to baby seat Helen ; and lies ; lies .
My accident caused me 28 parts  of my body compound fracture ; interna…
[14:05, 11/23/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: That is what I txt her few days ago after she txt me
[14:05, 11/23/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: I hope to know you childhood , your history better,  that is crucial for the therapy work
[14:05, 11/23/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Her name is May
[14:06, 11/23/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: I will go out for appointment.  Will go through tonight.
[14:08, 11/23/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: u can come by taxi or bus to Pokfulam.  taxi better if not familiar.  call me when u are leaving home.  I will go to the flat from my home nearby a bit early.
[14:08, 11/23/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: any fruit u like? or cakes?
[14:08, 11/23/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: I will prepare
[14:09, 11/23/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: that is penthouse,  can see your home from the roof

Her sister message

[13:38, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Why all you punishment me all these years at my old age. i suffered and it was all my fault caused you and it want it happened to me. over half century you all punistment mentally and can kill me. i asked and beg her monica fly to see you because important family care you and helen was baby not allow tosee you i had people watch outside the room and afraid bad thing happened. i do felt bad not drive to school and you brought me to school because did not where .. i suffered all my life before you born live at factory with dad mistress for 6years dad slept with her in same place dad gave money to her so mo
[13:38, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: ...Lost all messages again ..mom labor with mei lung at taipo clinic at that time live at factory 1950-1956 mom put me in her bed hope mistress would not slept with dad mom was wrong because i awake.. dad gaue all money to her so mom ask me to lied dad to buy books...
[13:38, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Good and care you ignored one family member who i am no longer connection with her that you pour money to her and her mom who also being cheated since she was childhood who always acted helplessly to me and got my attention incuding paid air fares and stayed my four different homes and my expenses and taken care cook brought to doctors most we save richard holiday and save mei ling came so vacation with her when she came to us. mei lung never had opportunity. mom pregnant with lung in japan mom got insane because dad vacation with mistress in 1952 and
[13:38, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: a few weeks ago i met age 80 read my palm i had bitter and hard life. but i face the difficult life. I never caused you bad thing happenem to you instead you have the best life. your thought was totally wrong. i never think happened. you accused me why? i did not caused this happened and it was my bad destiny i want good thing to you but why made you blamed me instead ? you never thing good thing i did and told others also. never tell i and richard moved to small room and let you stay master bedroom. monica never do anything to you never want to applied to sisters to usa she later saie why i applied you a
[13:38, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: I so regretted that why i did not drive you ?  now i thought i did afraid can cause accident why do i do something. i ask God heal you. i am heart broken that you suffered so much i hope you forgive me not drive you to school. Bless you all the time.
[13:39, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: These is my eldest sister txt me
[13:39, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: When she was a kid; she saw my father slept with his mistress
[13:39, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: And my poor mother also there
[13:40, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: For many years before I was born
[13:40, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: So u know I had a very ugly hearted father
[13:40, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Very cruel
[13:40, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: N selfish
[13:41, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Also emotional
[13:53, 11/24/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: Coming now





The summary

Dear April
The first time I heard your childhood life,  family tragedies, I was shocked. Your text made my eye wet. Then you shared more and your traumatic life experiences and your success, you know what ? You are magic, you can survive and become a wealthy businesswoman, helping your husband to build your own successful enterprise. You are so brave,  kind,  caring and loving,  responsible. From your stories, I saw your mom's golden shadow goes into your blood, becomes part of you.

The gratitude process in  the last part of today's section included

expression of love
expression of apology
expression of Thanksgiving
expression of farewell

You did so deepening,  reflective and empowering. All your beloved mom spirit gradually becomes your energy.  Mom will be so grateful,  gratified and proud of you, such kindhearted daughter.

This is a process I use for grief management,  for people who have tremendous attachment , grief  feelings, grateful to their beloved ones, esp. direct families. It is not a once forever healing Therapy.
Trust yourself,  today was your big gift day, Thanksgiving day. You will have huge changes if u continue to use this way to connect with your mom, your spiritual god.

Why I am so confident and love this Therapy? Because many clients c show who have overcome depression because of hypnotherapy, a integration of multiple psychological therapies.

Gratitude process is part of my therapies.

This is a process of recognition of beloved ones, connections with our beloved ones spirituality.
 Ultimately,  it is a process to recognition of ourselves, self affirmation of ourselves.

 It helps us to find our own healing power,  creating our own inner parents. That's imagination power.

Your mom is also my example,  I learnt Soo much from her.


Your mom is also my example,  I learnt Soo much from her.
[21:39, 11/24/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: The beginning hypnotherapy on sleep,  relaxation process looked so well, as u proved to me you have good sense of imagination, self trust ability,  so you can be hypnotised easily, you can use this method to heal your pain,  your emotions anytime if coming to ur mind and body.

My responsibility is to coach you to become a self healing expert,  and also you can be a good healer to your family,  siblings,  who  you are loning to help them.
[22:30, 11/24/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: Your traumatic life have caused you sooo much pain, dark shadows, regret , fears ...issues.

One important issue is the abortion, your grief and guity still torturs you.

Relationships with sisters and others.

Panic issues sometimes as you said.

Physical pains management

Very often,  physical pain can be worse because of emotional pain.

And your nightmares study, your sleep issues.

Nightmares, unpleasant dreams are results of psychological unbalance,  shadows,陰影,traumas...

Although today we didn't have time to do dream Therapy,  it is a good preparation to prevent nightmares already. Gradually you will have abilities to control your subconscious mind, to overcome dream issues.

Honestly no quick fix, need lots of self empathy,  self love and humbleness to study dream psychology.  I will teach you by studying your dream patterns,  to digest your dream cases.
But not one section, or a short time you can grasp.

 I spent 20 years to become a self learnt dream therapist. I used dream therapy,  hypnotherapy to heal my insomnia,  dream disorders and postpartum depression. So I DETERMINE to use my experience to help more people.

Accumulated more than 60 workshops and many case records,  still I am learning how to use sleep dreams to help people to develop their potential,  to achieve their dreams, not just healing, curing diseases. Starting from myself, set  an example. Dreams are our best friends.

Now your dreams are very far from you , like a stranger, as you don't know them, you have helpless feelings about your dreams sometimes.  You will experience a process from a stranger to a good, best friend. You will become your best friend of yourself via your sleep dreams.

My mom is one of the best example. I also help many people, one example is Pheabe,  to learn her dreams with a series dream therapy. You can see her huge change. All proves we can turn sleep dreams into life transformation.

解夢工作幫助了我家人走出哀傷和憂鬱:

媽媽在5年前,夢中常常見到30多年前離世的母親。每次夢境都令她乍醒,不能再睡;自從她解開了這個又苦又甜的夢境,她釋懷了,放下了。睡眠質素也提升了。因為心結打開,找到用積極、正向的方法去填補失去的愛,通過自己把愛傳給家人和更多的人,活出她母亲大爱的精神。

兩年前爸爸離開,她再次陷入哀傷憂鬱, 噩夢、夢境又來這裡了,同樣, 夢境是來解決問題的,這是她再次成長的經歷:
解夢,尋找生命的支撐力 ( 媽媽走出哀傷憂鬱)

我的90歲的姑丈曾經住在老人院,常常發惡夢,大喊大叫,影響其他人的睡眠。我帮他解開噩夢,疏解情緒,走出了夢境失調,睡眠失調的状态。

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2018/08/blog-post_7.html

有愛,就是天堂


Self relationship goes first before building good relationships with others.

No health without mental health.

You are on the way to heal your traumatic inner child,  you are curing and preventing diseases. it is worth doing. A practice to learn to truly love yourself.🌈🧡👍👍

The greatest love is to learn to love ourselves.

We can, yes, we can.🧡🧡

 Now your dreams are very far from you , like a stranger, as you don't know them, you have helpless feelings about your dreams sometimes.  You will experience a process from a stranger to a good, best friend. You will become your best friend of yourself via your sleep dreams. 

My mom is one of the best example. I also help many people, one example is Pheabe,  to learn her dreams with a series dream therapy. You can see her huge change. All proves we can turn sleep dreams into life transformation. 


解夢工作幫助了我家人走出哀傷和憂鬱:

媽媽在5年前,夢中常常見到30多年前離世的母親。每次夢境都令她乍醒,不能再睡;自從她解開了這個又苦又甜的夢境,她釋懷了,放下了。睡眠質素也提升了。因為心結打開,找到用積極、正向的方法去填補失去的愛,通過自己把愛傳給家人和更多的人,活出她母亲大爱的精神。

兩年前爸爸離開,她再次陷入哀傷憂鬱, 噩夢、夢境又來這裡了,同樣, 夢境是來解決問題的,這是她再次成長的經歷:

http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2018/06/blog-post_13.h…
I would like to dedicate the song to you mom and all great mothers in the world
想起這部電影和這首歌,

隱形的翅膀 - “隱藏大明星” 電影給我的感動 ( MOVIE REVIEW 2)
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2018/05/blog-post_28.html
 Donna ,  thanks very much of your song for my loving mother

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JgHsA_zwHE4

 pay attention to the lyric, very sweet, her mom is always beaten by his father. The daughter asked her mom to divorce with her father    but her mom refused

finally her mom protects her children and takes all children away from her husband. That is India , horrible system, like old China

i made three workshop with this movie, one in a college for students , they all moved and thanked her great parents, and esp. moms to some students , fisrt time to say " I love you mom " to many students

last section,  I focused on your self recognition,  self empowering and self reflection.  
也是這本書所提出的
療癒的第一步,是從愛自己,接受自己和認同自己開始。
我會每天傳幾頁給你。










你的反思和自我認同,自我價值在提升,為你開心😄🌹❤
all is well

this belief is crucial to turn victim belief to more realistic, more objective, optimistic positive beliefs


April response

Thanks very much of your positive words to build up my confidence .  Honestly ; for my entire life ; negative people all surrounding me n has given me lots of criticism including my husband .
Therefore ; I need encouragement from people who care for me .  You might be the angel who is willing to help me to achieve my dream .
Yes, I still have fear; sudden hopeless ; panic ...... all those negative emotion come to me .
But I am emotional stronger now and I will talk to myself ,”. April, I love you .  I am always with you . I will not dessert you .” to self healing myself .
My abortion caused me lots of guilt ; n I know my son is crying to me “ Why do you not letting me come to this earth n I have to 投胎to others ? ‘
唉,因果報應,so now; I become a lon…
[09:19, 11/25/2019] April Yang Pheabe recommended: I appreciate your kindness n sincerity to help your clients to remove their emotional trauma n build up a much happier life .  🙏🙏🙏

Donna response

[10:30, 11/25/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: Your self affirmation from the bottle of your heart will truly go into your cells, blood and your subconscious mind. Very empowering. I really appreciate your nice words , encouraging me to do better , to improve.                                                                                                                                                             
懂得讚美自己,
就懂得讚美別人。

懂得讚美別人美,
其實是在活出自己的美。  I love the saying that accept the facts that you cannot change, Do best to change what you can change
[10:36, 11/25/2019] Donna Wong 🌈😀: you will turn all nightmares into healing resources, yes, you are on the way to make more sweet, peaceful, warm dreams in which you smile in your dreams ...💗🧡



28 11 2019

Preparation

找到真我,呈现真我 超越真我(潛意識力量訓練課程)总结

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2016/09/blog-post_19.html

We are what we dream - Dreams talk

每次看到朋友分享夢境,都有說不出的感激和喜悅。

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2019/03/we-are-what-we-dream-dreams-talk.html

personality game workshop reference

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2019/04/personality-game-workshop-reference.html

You Can Heal Your Life

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2019/11/you-can-heal-your-life.html

Second section

28 11 2019


Affirmations For The Inner Child -  to healing the inner child

        All is well. The present is great and the future is bright.
        Life is full of joy. I release the past and live only in the present.
        My wounds are now healed. I look forward to a rich and fulfilling life.
        Today is the best of my life and everyday is a new today.
        I am the center of my universe. Everybody loves and appreciates me and I reciprocate.
        ________ (your name here) I love you, I care about you and I accept you as you are.
        ________ (your name here) I am proud of you and all that you are.
        ________ (your name here), you are free to make your own choices. Live your own life.
        ________ (your name here), you are beautiful and attractive. Everybody loves you.
        The child in me is very much alive. It is a happy, joyous and fun loving child.
        I have forgotten the sad past. I live in the happy present and a still happier future awaits me.
        The child in me and I are one. We love each other, care for each other, appreciate each other and will always belong to each other.

 My name is gratitude
Healing yourself
Sleep hypnosis suggestion

Inner child therapy

Sex abuse, 

Four expressions towards the baby son 

dream therapy Panic

Inner child therapy

Use INNER GUIDE to Solve Emotional Issue

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2019/11/use-inner-guide-to-solve-emotional-issue.html


A letter to My Son about Self affirmation


Forgiveness process

Forgiveness

回歸心身安頓,重獲心靈自由

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2016/11/blog-post_60.html

其中讓自己快樂的方法,就是寬恕原諒。如果我們還有什麼放不下,想起來都有憤怒或心痛,心碎的感覺,以下是我的Forgiving process by Hypnotherapy. 你可以隨時隨地,安靜自己,聽一聽,多聽幾次,你會舒服好多,平靜好多,因為你開始明白,寬恕原諒不是認同錯誤,而是給自己機會,給別人機會,走出牢籠。寬恕原諒,完全是為了愛自己,讓自己的身心安頓,為自己心理和身體健康負責任。

Forgiveness process by Donna's hypnotherapy
https://www.facebook.com/donnawinter2000/posts/10215591312921380

如何真正做到寬恕原諒?
 How to truly forgive?
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2018/03/how-to-truly-forgive.html

天堂小屋電影工作坊 - Forgiveness Journey
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2018/02/forgiveness-journey.html

The Power of Forgiveness 寬恕原諒的力量
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2016/08/the-power-of-forgiveness.html


29 11 2019 second section

3 processes

1) 解梦

2) Happy Birthday

3) Intimate words to the little son (after having abortion 30 years ago)

Summary



[你的髮型好看,人年輕、精神好多。又仍是一個漂亮的April.

可以為你慶祝生日,看到你由心而發、愛的宣言:愛自己,愛老公,愛家人,渴望和家人,親人的關係有深刻的連結,我 從心底為你喜悅,喝采。

特別是提到和先生白頭到老,我好感動。他現在面對生意和健康的挑戰,自我價值容易動搖,而他是不善表達的,所以倍加需要你的體諒和同理和愛護。



~

今天一開始,你提起最近的夢境,是和嫂子的關係夢,我順水推舟,就開始第一次用這個輕輕的小夢,進入你的冰山潛意識,注入一些解夢的概念。你們和大哥一家的關係,由奶奶離開時漸漸改善,有你做主動。

從你們兩個夫人的關係,從夢中的情感,到現實生活 ,可以看到你的渴望,你很想和她有進一步的了解和溝通。你不滿意表面的,你渴望大家可以有心靈的連結。

然後我們用role play,Sandy 聽到你的心底話,而你也聽到她的心底話,雖然不能100%,但有些東西,是潛意識的,也可以說是集體潛意識的,所以,我感受到她的難處,挑戰,不容易,你也非常認同,這個過程,是從她的角度,多角度去看到事情的完整性,所以你的同理心也在提升。

這個夢境,提醒你是一個渴望表裡一致的人,你想做回自己。敦促你和周圍的關係,完全可以由你去improve,目的是給出愛,In return , you receive love and embraced by love.
你也有很好的親和力,你好鄰居的關係改善,就是最好的例子。

所以,和Monica 的關係,也會更上一層樓,相信自己,有愛,有慈悲,有同理心,可以放下過去,一起成長。

相信2019年是你找回越來越多愛,親情的一年,因為你愛的能力大大提升,由愛自己出發,療癒自己出發。

你和兒子的對話,和他傾訴你這麼多年來壓在心底的話,和他道愛,道歉,道謝,祝福他過的幸福,他收到了。

他說,媽媽我明白你的,不用內疚,每個人都會有過去,有錯 有跌倒的時候,最重要的是你現在活的好,我就安心了。

你要好好好好的愛自己啊!否則,我會不安寧,不快樂的。你想我快樂的,所以你要快樂,不再用內疚折磨自己 ,用批判鞭打自己,你對我的愛❤,可以繼續愛下去,想像我在你心裏,就像是婆婆一樣,活在你心裏,對嗎!


我講述的那個兒子上不了天堂 ,如果爸爸一天到晚多在內疚,自責,憂鬱,哀傷。這個夢境令這個爸爸跨越了憂鬱,過會正常的日子,過的更加有愛的日子,因為他開始愛自己了。

記住這個夢境,你會慢慢在夢境中遇見兒子,和他擁抱。

我也可以和你透過催眠,植入夢境,製造夢境 和兒子在潛意識中相聚。

很欣慰,你已經開始和你的夢境潛意識接近,慢慢你的夢境會成為你的生命力量。好朋友 ,內在指導和父母。

April response

[23:02, 11/29/2019] Donna , 我很感動和感恩遇到妳

將我過去不敢向任何人訢說我感到羞愧的事,向妳訴說了。

我很需要你的鼓勵和支持。

感謝妳

晚安😘

Donna response



I will be always by your side. It's my honor to know your past stories and to accompany 陪伴 you to let go of all limited beliefs, emotions, to let your inner child settle down , when you inner parents grow up.

把過去一切,令人開心和痛苦的事情都當成是成長的過程 土壤和肥料。沒有人不走彎路,正是因為我們走了彎路,才可變得聰明,也更懂得珍惜。

內疚和不安正是愛的表現,是自我反思的過程。

但過度自責,是活在過去。

你已經慢慢從內疚的深淵走向高自尊的自己,重新給自己定位,成為一個由內到外都充滿感恩和愛的天使,成為家族的leader

你說, 渴望生命有價值,有意義,你現在不正是開始尋找和建立中嗎?

是的,一步步 找回真正喜歡的自己,有價值的事情,我們每天做,  從家庭開始。

當一個人找回愛的能力,愛自己的能力,反思的能力,感恩的能力,很多問題都容易解決。
只要有愛,和自己的關係,和别人的關係就有了潤滑劑,
摩擦自然大大减少
(做個案中的啟示)


Surprise!
昨天,我給案主一個驚喜,在治療的section中,一個生日蛋糕放在她的面前,她好感動,热泪盈眶,是真的,不是發夢!
她閉上眼睛,誠心許願。說出來吧!說出來,你更有力量去實現你的夢想!於是她說:今天Donna送給我這麼美麗的蛋糕,為我給我慶祝生日,我好感動,希望和Donna永遠做好朋友。我很需要你的支持。
和先生經歷的那麼多風風雨雨,渴望手牽手,白頭到老。
和遠方的親人團聚,大家和解,今後心連心,彼此牽卦和關心。和香港的家人、親戚,關係更上一層樓...
我真的好欣慰,她把每一個關係都變成自己生命最重要的部分。一個禮拜前,她的心情非常沉重,不知如何面對一個個壓力和煩惱的關係,經過兩次深刻的療愈( 敘事、心理催眠和夢境治療),她的自信和價值感,愛自己的能力,感恩的能力,自我反思的能力,漸漸回來了!將來,已經是一個彩虹,雖然還有風暴,她在開始勇敢面對!
我對她說:看到你由心而發的愛的宣言:愛自己,愛老公,愛家人,渴望和家人,親人的關係有深刻的連結,我從心底為你喜悅,喝采。
特別是提到和先生白頭到老,我好感動。
也說出我的心底話:和我的先生,白頭到老,一起成長。
我覺得:我和每一個個案的關係,都是平等的。他們都是我的好朋友。感恩可以陪伴他們成長,聆聽他們的生命故事,從中得到好多啟迪,給我的生命增添營養和色彩!



當一個人找回愛的能力,愛自己的能力,反思的能力,感恩的能力,很多問題都容易解決。
只要有愛,和自己的關係,和别人的關係就有了潤滑劑,
摩擦自然大大减少
(做個案中的啟示)

❤❤🌈🌈🙏🙏🌹🌹

Next Section

4 11 2019

issues:

Insecurity money

Insecurity on relationship

Not yet easily to forgive father and sisters who had abused her

Inner child  to be loved and comforted and listened



Preparation

Time Line and inner child and sex abuse
Forgiveness process

1
http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2014/11/shadow-vsquality-of-relationship.html

愛,從接納自己開始」Shadow v.s.Quality of Relationship

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噩夢,潛意識永不放棄的精神像徵
噩夢,潛意識永不放棄的精神像徵

21 12 2019 



今天,我和你探索了你在旅途中与人之间的关系

最后,我们来到和和你爸爸的关系,你自己的关系。

你有一些限制性的信念,一直困扰、绑住你、其中是你的命运论,没有孩子的论点。

这些信念没有改写,会一直阻碍自己活得辛苦些,没有那么容易开心。

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你很內疚把孩子打掉了,認為自己後來的命運注定要受到懲罰,是
自己帶來的。她渴望有孩子。
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憤怒爸爸,認為他是敵人。
沒錯,很多童年陰影都源於他,
但爸爸也是受害者,所以他把憤怒投訴在別人身上,成為加害者,
Prosecutor,因為他內在孩子出來沒有得到安撫,沒有成長。
他就投射在别人身上,害人害己。

你看看自己的情緒爆發時,是不是也有些像你的爸爸,
你很驚訝和害怕自己這樣。 Be aware.great!

我和你做內在小孩的process,
我告訴你,你有孩子,她就在你的心裡,
那個每次情緒低落,就看到,就想起的童年小女孩,被爸爸鄙視、欺凌、
不理的小女孩。

今天你已經長大,夜裡夢迴,她來找你,在你面前哭泣。當你情緒爆發,
她背後的訴求是:要你看到,一個多麼需要你你抱一抱她,kiss她的小孩子,
聽她的申訴和不安,給回她需要的愛和安全感。

今天的therapy,我善用潛意識的原理,看到你的成长:

在潛意識裡,沒有過去,沒有將來,只有現在,NOW。只要我們這個時刻想到,
夢到什麼,都是和現在有關,哪怕content是在過去 
(guilt, regret , hatred, compliant...) 或將來( anxiety)

只要內在受傷的小孩得到她的滿足,需要,她就會變得有生命力,
有衝勁,有憧憬,有希望!潛意識裡 ,真真假假不懂分,一切都是真的。

Positive imagination produces positive reality, and vise versa !

Negative imagination "power" - or disaster:

受焦慮困擾的人常常是把negative imagination用的淋漓盡致,把fear放大,

而且認為是真的,導致panic。或者把過去的創傷綁住自己,不肯放下,
認為自己還活在過去,一生都在索求愛,沒有人可以滿足他/她愛,
所以就一直会不開心,什麼事情都令自己不開心。

Dream Therapy and hypnotherapy is an application of positive

imagination power:

Turn sleep dreams, wonderful imagination( insights, creative imagination , hope, wishes) into reality.

That is why I say Imagination works! That is hypnotherapy process and 
I love hypnotherapy, which help me live in peace and build inner abundance.


Hypnotherapy changes our inner program and change our behavior 
showing to outside.

然后我和学习Forgiveness power:

看着video, 我们的眼睛都湿了:

The Power of Forgiveness

昨天是我2019年其中最開心的一天,經歷了四次的療愈。我可以大膽地和案主做Forgiveness process。我和個案一起去經歷Forgiveness Process, 我們都哭了。

朋友今天和爸爸說:I forgive you despite that you hurt, traumatized me in my childhood an teenager time.

我說:unforgiving is negative energy, just like cancer triggers, it can kill us and our families.

Yes, Forgiveness cannot change your past, but it can reprogram yourself and empower your future.

我們一起學習shadow therapy, “death triangle” - Rescuer, Victim and prosecutor...

You can continue to be victim of your past or become your parents of your inner child, your owner of your life. It is your choice!

她說,今天最大的收穫,是我明白forgiveness power. Victim disaster.

Yes, 你可以令自己不再做受害者, 不再索求愛。你不一定要愛他,但我不需要再恨他來damage your life, your family life.

我說:今天是一個reliving day of your life, to make your life a new page.
Forgiveness is a life long learning.
Can't be successful by healing once!

People ask me, “By hypnotherapy, could you help me to delete traumatic memory, memory of people they hate and events they make me sleepless? ”
I think we cannot delete any memory but ask if I really want to get out of the psycho-prison. If yes, probably forgiveness is the most powerful way - forgiving others means free ourselves.
Forgive is not to accept the behavior of the people, forgiveness cannot change the past but open the door of freedom ...... a lifelong learning: Forgiveness is an attitude and a state of mind.
Almost everyday we can use FORGIVENESS to clean our dark Shadow, to be freer ourselves.

其中讓自己快樂的方法,就是寬恕原諒。如果我們還有什麼放不下,想起來都有憤怒或心痛,心碎的感覺,以下是我的Forgiving process by Hypnotherapy. 你可以隨時隨地,安靜自己,聽一聽,多聽幾次,你會舒服好多,平靜好多,因為你開始明白,寬恕原諒不是認同錯誤,而是給自己機會,給別人機會,走出牢籠,寬恕原諒,完全是為了愛自己,讓自己的身心安頓,為自己心理和身體健康負責任。

Ref.:

回歸心身安頓,重獲心靈自由
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2016/11/blog-post_60.html

FORGIVING PROCESS -寬恕,原諒的冥想練習


探索潛意識,找到內在的伴侶和家!


22 12 2019

23 12 2019

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生日禮物是...
生日禮物不一定是物質的,也可以是靈性的。
跟進個人個案經過一段時間療愈,終於進入放下50多年的仇恨,
寬恕父親,寬恕自己的階段,我說:這是最好的禮物給你自己,
也是給我的最好生日禮物。
終極的愛是寬恕原谅。 使自己走出自己的監獄。

孩子昨天和我打球,和j家人分享,送給我們最好的禮物。