The article sent to my email today shows us that life is not a fate. Human can choose NOT to be a slave of events. We have choice to what we want and to response, to get the results we desire, to learn to improve our situatins spiritually, physically and wealthly.
只要願意，都可以做到 (By MIng WOng)
幾年前，美國有個名叫鄒奇奇的八歲小女孩，她寫了一本小說《飛舞的手指》(Flying Fingers)，在亞馬遜網路書店暢銷，並隨即引起廣泛注意。很多記者去訪問她，問她長大以後要做甚麼，她非常驚訝地說：「為甚麼說『長大以後』要做甚麼？我現在已經在做我要做的事了！」
只要找到自己的天命，並能夠充份地發揮天賦，你在當下一刻便已經能夠去做你應該做的事情，不需要等待明天的來臨。
肯‧羅賓森(Ken Robinson)博士告訴我們以下四個關鍵問題，決定你是否活出自己：
• 天資 --- 甚麼是你真正的力量所在？
• 熱情 --- 那件事讓你永遠充滿活力？
• 態度 --- 你讓際遇左右生命，還是用態度創造運氣？
• 機會 --- 如何為你的熱情找到實踐的管道？
我們每一個人，任何時候，只要願意，都可以做到。
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Monday, September 6, 2010
Food for thoughts - love, marraige, mistakes and apology
1. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.
2. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
3. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
Attitude and Behaviour:
1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully
2. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
3. Never laugh at anyone's dream.
4. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. No dirty words; be respect!
5. Talk slowly but think quickly.
6. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
7. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
8. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
9. Spend some time alone.
10. Before sleeping, thinking back what the best thing of the day and the worst. Then try to make every day to be the best.
11. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
Mistakes and Apology:
1. The importance to say sorry and to make it meaningful - Never be ashamed to admit you were wrong. You’re only saying that you’re wiser today than you were yesterday.
2. When you screw up (make mistakes, fail), you apologize. A good apology has three parts: I’m sorry. It was my fault. How do I make it right? Most people skip that third part.
3. When you lose, don't lose the lesson!
Pictures sources:
filetransit.com and weddingandflowers.info
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Food for thoughts - for Eugene's New phrase in his life
September 5, 2010 - On the day of coming second week in UST:
To Eugene,
From: Mon
A good quote gives your wisdom and courage. Here are quotes I specially selected together with presuppositions from my own experiences -
Success:
1. It’s not that successful people don’t have challenges. Successful people rise above their challenge.
2. 7. Non-resourceful people don’t exist, only non-resourceful state.
3. The key for successfully settling down is to ask for help.
4. Limiting decision and beliefs keep people from ever rising above their challenges.
5. One may not able to control event but response to events is under his control. How to response is the key to success and separates people from success and failure.
6. If you help enough people get what they want most, you will get what you want most.
(Chris Howard)
7. If you go in search of honey, you must expect to encounter bees. (Thomas Szasz)
8. 没有做不到的事，只有想不到的事。
Strategies：
1. We should have no fear about difficulties, problems and challenges but have fear if you don't have right strategies and resources to tackle them.
2． (在战略上要渺视敌人，在战术上要重视敌人。敌人：心目中的困难或问题)
3. We are what we repeatedly do; excellence is not a sudden act, but a habit.
Future:
1. The future isn’t what it used to be but what you imagine to be. Your imagination and future visioning determines your future and fate.
2. The future will not be fundamentally different from the imagination.
3. The vision of imaginations is the master of fate.
4. Man believes that reality resides in the solid objects he seems around him, that is in this world that the drama of life ordinates, that events spring suddenly into existence, created moment by moment out of antecedent physical facts,. But causation does not lie in the external world of facts. The drama of life originates in the imagination of man. The real act of becoming takes place within man’s imagination and not without.
Creativity:
1. Constraint and limitations and disadvantages bring about opportunities, possibilities and creativity.
2. One door closes and another door opens.
3. Books aren't written to be believed in, but to be questioned. (Umberto Eco)
4. Optimism is essential to achievement and it is also the foundation of courage and true progress.(Nicholas Murray Butler)
Communication:
5. A trouble shared is trouble halved. A joy shared is joy doubled.
6. Anything is possible in the process of rapport.
7. Quality of life is quality of communication.
8. You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can’t get them across you ideas, your ideas won’t get you anywhere.
9. If you avoid the truth, you pay for your lies.
10. A lie always does the most harm to the person who tells it. (Karen Moline)
11. Everything that can be said can be said clearly. (Ludwig Wittgenstein)
12. Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. (Maori)
13. To learn from mistakes;
To learn to adjust to changes;
To learn to be happy regardless of conditions;
To learn to be forgiving and open-minded;
To learn to be respected and to respect;
To learn to appreciate and thanks-give;
To learn to love and to be loved.
14. Knowledge is not knowledge unless you know how to share it with others. (UST)
Problems:
1. All problems are problems of imagination; all solutions are solutions of imagination.
2. The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at that created them. (Thinking out of the box and find the deep rooted reasons and nutshell of the problems) (Albert Einstein)
3. A problem well defined is problem halved solved.
4. A question well clarified is question halved answered.
5. To attempt changed circumstances before you change your imaginal activity is to struggle against the very nature of things. There can be no outer changed until there is first an imaginal change. (Change starts from deep level of self first)
6. Imagining novel solutions to even more complex problems is far nobler than to run form problem. (Neville)
Emotion:
1. If you can control your mind, you can control the world.
2. Flexibility gains the control.
3. The only thing we have to worry/fear is worry/fear itself.
4. If you can control your emotion, your emotions your friend. Otherwise, it is your enemy.
5. You are in charge of your mind and therefore your result.
6. The relation between emotion and physical conditions are hand-in-hand. Negative emotion creeps back if our body is not in good shape. When you body changes, so does your mind.
Positive thinking:
1. Open-minded people can learn from everything.
2. Closed minded people will lean from nothing.
3. Our greatest glory isn’t in never falling but in rising every time we fall. (UST)Always be a first-rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of anybody else. (Judy Garland)
Love and forgiving:
1. As you sojourn through life, forgive. No matter what has been done to you, said about you, or how painful it may be. In the end you will feel the warmth of the tapestry of love you've created. (Juan L. Christian)
2. The love we give away is the only love we keep. (Elbert Hubbard)
Critical thinking, Study method/thinking strategies -The 4-MAT SYSTEM
To Eugene,
From: Mon
A good quote gives your wisdom and courage. Here are quotes I specially selected together with presuppositions from my own experiences -
Success:
1. It’s not that successful people don’t have challenges. Successful people rise above their challenge.
2. 7. Non-resourceful people don’t exist, only non-resourceful state.
3. The key for successfully settling down is to ask for help.
4. Limiting decision and beliefs keep people from ever rising above their challenges.
5. One may not able to control event but response to events is under his control. How to response is the key to success and separates people from success and failure.
6. If you help enough people get what they want most, you will get what you want most.
(Chris Howard)
7. If you go in search of honey, you must expect to encounter bees. (Thomas Szasz)
8. 没有做不到的事，只有想不到的事。
Strategies：
1. We should have no fear about difficulties, problems and challenges but have fear if you don't have right strategies and resources to tackle them.
2． (在战略上要渺视敌人，在战术上要重视敌人。敌人：心目中的困难或问题)
3. We are what we repeatedly do; excellence is not a sudden act, but a habit.
Future:
1. The future isn’t what it used to be but what you imagine to be. Your imagination and future visioning determines your future and fate.
2. The future will not be fundamentally different from the imagination.
3. The vision of imaginations is the master of fate.
4. Man believes that reality resides in the solid objects he seems around him, that is in this world that the drama of life ordinates, that events spring suddenly into existence, created moment by moment out of antecedent physical facts,. But causation does not lie in the external world of facts. The drama of life originates in the imagination of man. The real act of becoming takes place within man’s imagination and not without.
Creativity:
1. Constraint and limitations and disadvantages bring about opportunities, possibilities and creativity.
2. One door closes and another door opens.
3. Books aren't written to be believed in, but to be questioned. (Umberto Eco)
4. Optimism is essential to achievement and it is also the foundation of courage and true progress.(Nicholas Murray Butler)
Communication:
5. A trouble shared is trouble halved. A joy shared is joy doubled.
6. Anything is possible in the process of rapport.
7. Quality of life is quality of communication.
8. You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can’t get them across you ideas, your ideas won’t get you anywhere.
9. If you avoid the truth, you pay for your lies.
10. A lie always does the most harm to the person who tells it. (Karen Moline)
11. Everything that can be said can be said clearly. (Ludwig Wittgenstein)
12. Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. (Maori)
13. To learn from mistakes;
To learn to adjust to changes;
To learn to be happy regardless of conditions;
To learn to be forgiving and open-minded;
To learn to be respected and to respect;
To learn to appreciate and thanks-give;
To learn to love and to be loved.
14. Knowledge is not knowledge unless you know how to share it with others. (UST)
Problems:
1. All problems are problems of imagination; all solutions are solutions of imagination.
2. The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at that created them. (Thinking out of the box and find the deep rooted reasons and nutshell of the problems) (Albert Einstein)
3. A problem well defined is problem halved solved.
4. A question well clarified is question halved answered.
5. To attempt changed circumstances before you change your imaginal activity is to struggle against the very nature of things. There can be no outer changed until there is first an imaginal change. (Change starts from deep level of self first)
6. Imagining novel solutions to even more complex problems is far nobler than to run form problem. (Neville)
Emotion:
1. If you can control your mind, you can control the world.
2. Flexibility gains the control.
3. The only thing we have to worry/fear is worry/fear itself.
4. If you can control your emotion, your emotions your friend. Otherwise, it is your enemy.
5. You are in charge of your mind and therefore your result.
6. The relation between emotion and physical conditions are hand-in-hand. Negative emotion creeps back if our body is not in good shape. When you body changes, so does your mind.
Positive thinking:
1. Open-minded people can learn from everything.
2. Closed minded people will lean from nothing.
3. Our greatest glory isn’t in never falling but in rising every time we fall. (UST)Always be a first-rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of anybody else. (Judy Garland)
Love and forgiving:
1. As you sojourn through life, forgive. No matter what has been done to you, said about you, or how painful it may be. In the end you will feel the warmth of the tapestry of love you've created. (Juan L. Christian)
2. The love we give away is the only love we keep. (Elbert Hubbard)
Critical thinking, Study method/thinking strategies -The 4-MAT SYSTEM
Friday, September 3, 2010
Life is a blessing - Poems to Son
Your U life just began. Things are not as smooth as expected. Here are some ideas for you:
When you feel unhappy,
Think about the Pakistan’s dying victims in the flood;
When you feel down,
Think about people just killed in the hostage event in the Philippines;
When you feel lonely,
Think of people who love and care of you so much;
When you feel dreary,
Listen to your favorite music and Christ CD (Leadership mindset) to brighten you up;
Happiness is just within your reach with perceptiveness and appreciativeness;
A fulfilled life starts from a thanksgiving heart and sharing mindset.
Below is the best example how an Orange can make the poet so happy:
The orange (By British Piet, Wendy Cope)
At lunchtime I bought a huge orange –
The size of it made us all laugh.
I peeled and shared it with Robert and Dave –
They got quarter and I have a half.
And that Orange, it made me so happy,
As ordinary things often do,
Just lately. The shopping . A walk in the park,
This is peace and contentment. It’s new.
The rest of the day was quite easy.
I did all the jobs on my list
And enjoyed them and had some times over.
I love you. I’m glad I exist.
The poem is written in prosaic (plain) language but beamed with contentment, joy and human emotion. It reveals that happiness and fulfillment is a state of mind – ordinary life can be a blessing if we see it from a different point of view and understand nothing is taken for granted.
Existence is a blessing.
Happiness can be created if we are creative enough.
There is no lack of resources
But
Lack of creativity, self motivation and self awareness.
Learning to live with people in difference is a life technique.
Learn to adjust changes is the process of growing up.
You have started to practice what you have leant in NLP.
Please listen to the Leadership MIndset CD 1 to know what rapport and an open-mindset really mean.
Tony Robbins said,
If you have an opne-minedset,
Yu will learn from everything.
If you have a closed-mindset,
You will learn from nothing.
Be open minded and put down our ego, things will be easier than expected.
Mon
Pictures from:
http://www.york.ac.uk/media/studenthome/supportwelfareandhealth/healthandwell-being/images/505px/adjusting_to_university_life.png
http://images.businessweek.com/ss/09/05/0508_asia_business_schools/image/007_hkust.jpg
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