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| This morning I got up with the above idea that Gandhi said. Then I asked myself, if today were the last day, what do u want to do first , what do you regret that you have not started or finished projects or things ... this is very powerful question to utilize death as the best blessing to our human and release fear Then continue to go to details: do I have any fears, anxiety, anything I need to make a change, otherwise it is damaging my health and relationship, life quality? what have I improved a lots and I must keep going to become a desired habit? |
你的成長，我眼中：
true learning is unlearning the lies we have been taught.
How to deal with depression:
你發現運動后看事物都正面好多, 同一件事情，不同角度，perception 不同，你的projection、能量都不同。
逆境是人生學習一部分，是瞭解自己、改變自己，療愈自己的渠道，是成長的契機。所以你會越來越堅强，心靈的强大，走出ego shell， 走出陰影和童年創傷越來越快。
這樣一個信念，也是我們一直以來的主旨。
How to see adversity?
我問你如何總結自己這一段時間的成長和感恩，你給我的答案非常亮麗，是你自己内在發出的光芒，照亮了自己的shadow，才有如此深刻的感悟:
逆境、挫敗未必是壞事，善用逆境和挫敗，覺察自己，接納自己，逆境成爲發揮自己的潛能，改變命運的契機。
運動、大自然療愈
當他感到情緒低落，提不起勁，要倒下時，他會多些休息。但睡得多也不行，他慢慢又回到他喜歡的運動上：跑步，騎單車，去大自然走走，開始是帶著疲累的身體去，聽聽鳥兒的歌聲，小溪的流水聲，吸吸樹林的空氣，他興奮的告訴我：回來時帶著輕鬆的腳步回到家，整個人的面貌都不同了。
是的，因為人需要曬太陽，製造血清素等身體需要荷爾蒙，幫助轉化自己看事物的方式。
這是我昨天給你的幾個問題，你的答案，令我驚喜和感動、欣慰。
給自己depression/anxiety , 打分，從最低谷到最好狀態 10 - 1，
我從你的夢境變化，從你的這幾天分享，看到你在走出來，所以我supposed和確實相信你有自我療愈的力量，我你是什麽令你慢慢走出來？用了什麽方法？堅持這些方法，你會有實質性的改變，潛意識的成長。
你説：
On depression ratings, it was 8. Right now it is about 5. I set up small goals like reading scriptures, remind myself to do small things well and to complete any task I started. I also make myself do exercise like hiking and biking.
從這裏開始，今天晚上你的時間，我們更加深入探索如何走出depression haze 陰霾。
你看到一個用大自然療愈法、幫助我們serotonin和melatonin分泌。通過運動療愈自己，重新站立，繼續好好生活下去的自己，是的，自我調節，我們的細胞，可以自我修復。
你看到一個通過meditation去感受自己的感受，去觀賞自己的身體變化，感受痛症和stress， pressure，可以幫助你轉化情緒，轉化身心狀態，這是因爲冥想幫助釋放安多芬，釋放帶有慈悲心的催產素和放鬆自己的荷爾蒙，你看事物的角度也寬幅了。沒有那麽緊。比如Ben放學很累，休息一下，你不會覺得不安了。太好了，這樣的方法看事物，你會放鬆，寬鬆別人。
你説的好：通過冥想，你感受到、看到大開眼睛所看不到的東西，比現實更加現實，真實。那就是你回到了自己愛的家庭，你内在的家！真正感受自己身體和感受，情緒的感受，愛自己的表現，用到了自我療愈的力量，這和你的夢境 - I was in agony curling up on the couch. I was exhausted but couldn't sleep. My heart hurt a lot and to then I felt like a new heart was growing underneath the old one. I prayed for it to get stronger because I can sense I was already feeling better
4 5 2022
這個個案的分享：
心胸和角度 - 個案成長系列
今天，我的一位心理療愈朋友告訴我，她發現自己的心態有了不少改變，連自己都覺得很奇妙。看事物的角度多了一些，看別人的尺度寬了一些，自己也覺得輕鬆不少。以前會用自己的價值觀去判斷別人，覺得不對，應該怎樣，令大家都不舒服。
現在她會慢一點，學習先感受別人的心情和出發點，結果，她看到以前看不到的別人，他們的優點和美麗，對自己也沒有那麽綁緊。和孩子的溝通也慢慢提升，她帶著謙卑的心去聆聽，給孩子多了空間，大家有機會分享自己内心世界了。
對別人的尺度，源於對自己的尺度。看到別人的美，也就是活出自己的美。
以前，別人一句話，一個表情，都可以牽動她的情緒，覺得人家在看低自己，其實是自己看不起自己。現在她明白了，都是自己的投射，自己沒有安全感，沒有歸屬感導致的焦慮外射而已。和童年創傷息息相關。
當内在小孩成長了，接納自己多了，自我欣賞多了，自我價值感就强化起來，内心强大起來。慢慢，對外，就少一些看不順眼，多一些理解和包容，多一份喜悅。焦慮感自然會大大減輕。
多從別人的角度看事情，聯想到我和媽媽的相處：
老人家有自己對疾病一套看法：害怕知道越多，煩惱越大，就一直不去面對。
昨天的我會有擔心和焦慮，就會不停去勸她，也令她不舒服，發脾氣。現在，我開始不再强求自己，我要放下”不做就會内疚和後悔的自我懲罰“。也想想她自己身心壓力，是她還沒有能力面對的。
不如尊重她的意願，到時再決定吧，不爲明天而擔憂。
最終，每個人都要爲自己生命負責任。我不斷和自己說。
雖然對於媽媽的痛症，兩種方法的動機都是愛，每一種都有好處，也有弊處，關鍵在於當下，可以帶來什麽結果。
我也看到：自己的溝通能力，還要提升。
療愈別人，也在療愈自己。All coaching is self coaching.
和先生分享：孩子感受不到我們的愛，先生怎麽説？
[10:31 PM, 7/11/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: I just want to make sure I make the best use of our last session together
[10:31 PM, 7/11/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: So I want to be prepared with as many questions as I can
[10:32 PM, 7/11/2022] Donna Wong: oh, that's great, that scattering brain is working to get more understanding about yourself and others probably. I love you to be serious 💓
[10:34 PM, 7/11/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: Sometimes I come across as not serious because I feel overwhelmed and I give up....at least momentarily
[10:35 PM, 7/11/2022] Donna Wong: yes, that's human, we all are the same, but we also want to keep improving. today I did preparation and I was moved to see your subconscious change
[10:36 PM, 7/11/2022] Donna Wong: we have another week to share, to discuss and questioning are my favorite
[10:41 PM, 7/11/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: Part of the thing I want to explore is how to let go og guilt and shame about my kids. Chinese really believe that how kids turn out depends on parents. Americans don't as much. I want to see the truth take responsibility where it is mine to take and change and let my kids take responsibilities that are theirs to take
[10:42 PM, 7/11/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: I want to find acceptance and peace and love my life and not waste more time on regret and sorrow. Find blessings in adversities and even in terrible mistakes
[11:17 PM, 7/11/2022] Donna Wong: that is great. We had constantly discussion on this topic - guilt and shame, anxiety and fears. It is time as you said to take action to give them a free hand and to take responsibility of their own. Do you best to make change and they will change for sure.
[11:17 PM, 7/11/2022] Donna Wong: awesome, keeep going
[11:36 PM, 7/11/2022] Donna Wong: u have done a lot to learn to accept self and your hubby and kids can see you are different. I can see your change despite I cannot see in person
内在孩子成長了
情緒轉化 - 内在小孩療愈法 （INNER CHILD THERAPY）
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2022/03/blog-post_19.html
我允許，我接納，我經歷 （ script）
Setting boundaries inside out
從内到外的健康界限
練習二：健康界線
Yes ：贊美對方的出發點，感受對方的感受
No： 清晰表明自己的健康界限，千萬不要burnt out 自己
Yes：達到雙贏
1、誠實問自己：目前有甚麼關係，讓我覺得委屈受壓、表裏不一？我們毋須否定這段關係，而是學習健康界線，讓這段關係更加健康成熟，讓自己更加身心合一。
2、我們需要清晰自身的情感底線，有甚麼是自己不能接受的，譬如對方情緒發洩、惡意攻擊、性暴力、感情冷漠、侵犯隱私等。
3、嘗試與對方直接溝通，找出大家都滿意的雙贏方案。健康界線，不是劃清界線。健康界線之目的是創造更美好的關係。請誠實問自己的意圖：我是否願意與對方坦誠溝通，創造雙贏？
4、請確保自己心平氣和，放下批判和投射，放下改變對方的慾望，放下我高你低的道德高地，完全是平等尊重的善意溝通，所以需要首先具體欣賞對方。
5、溝通時，首先具體講出欣賞對方的地方，感謝對方的努力和支持，讓對方完全收到我們的真誠善意。
6、具體講出自己的底線，講出自己難以接受的地方，過程用心分享我的感受和需要，而非批判對方。所以請放下「你令我、你搞到我、你逼我」這種批判和攻擊性的指責；可以說：「我覺得、我感受到、我體驗到」。
7、請主動提出建設性的雙贏方案，然後用心聆聽對方的回應。健康界線，通常需要多次來回往返的溝通，才逐漸清晰。每次溝通，需要確保自己聽到對方的需要，並放下改變對方的慾望。
華山談受害三角與情緒勒索
DREAM THERAPY
dream power inspiration
I had another dream where I was waiting to take the ferry and watching the water. All of a sudden waves started to come over me and next thing I know I am in the middle of an ocean and loving it. The vastness of the ocean and the cleansing waves were so grand and magnificent and I am in the middle of it
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Christine:
I had another dream where I was waiting to take the ferry and watching the water. All of a sudden waves started to come over me and next thing I know I am in the middle of an ocean and loving it. The vastness of the ocean and the cleansing waves were so grand and magnificent and I am in the middle of it
My feedback
dream power, healing power inside vividly
it is very lovely and powerful dream. as a self inspiration
Christine:
Sometimes I feel like true learning is unlearning the lies we have been taught. I feel like I am standing in front of 汪洋大海 and 一無所知. It is exciting and overwhelming at the same time
Donna:
agreed fully, giving me a sense of resources.
Sometimes we think we have learnt or built in so much already, but in facing problems, we are still feeling 措手不及，平時知道的東西，都未必可以拿出來, 只能靠慣性思維，慣性行為，但微觀看，其實我們是在改變，需要不斷反思和調整。If we still repeat unwanted history , we have not installed the learning into our subconscious mind. Subconscious mind like a baby learning to standinf up and walk. Endless falling down and getting up practice to truly master the skills, let our body and muscles eeply get the imprint , memory of the program the learning and teaching
That is why we need to repeat learning, to ask questions and to reflect, and to practice, to do assessments , that is I said review 回顧， 反思，調整，進步。
Donna:
夢境中，冥想中，我們看到這個美麗的小孩，智慧的高人，你的夢境正是這樣的寫照。相信你看到了
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[6:36 PM, 7/6/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: Donna I had a very strange dream. My husband and I were in Hawaii. That was where my first college was and I went for two years. We met an Asian lady whom I remembered was in the same school and her husband who was white as well. He was abusive to her. They had a cute little girl. Then we all were entering a room to attend a wedding or some kind of celebration. I saw the mean husband being mean to his wife and I called him out. After he entered the room he closed the door and locked me out. My husband was already in. I then yelled and my husband heard me and turned around and I told him. Without opening the door to let me in he grabbed the other guy and they got into a fight. The next thing I know the door was open and my husband had 拜天地with the other lady. I found him and asked him to come outside and explain why he didn't talk to me first. He said he couldn't at that moment. I said he doesn't leave with me now we would get a divorce. He then left with me and told me there are too many factors and too much to explain given the circumstances. I said I was right there and for something that is so impactful he wouldn't even consult me first. Then the little girl told me she needs a home to go to and she doesn't want a mean dad. I told her she can always come to my house. Then I woke up.
[6:39 PM, 7/6/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: Thing is I can totally see my husband being that type of nice guy but to marry another woman without talking to me first, he knew he would lose me over that. Maybe I watched too many Asian dramas where it is no big deal for men to marry many women.
[10:13 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: reading your dream
[10:14 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: very important dream or profound dream again
[10:14 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: it is not ablle to tell as u have known dream are very condensed and deeeeeep
[10:15 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: how is your situation now? not known for a whine
[10:16 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: when was the dream occurr
[10:16 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: ?
[10:16 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: the current situations and background is the one of the keys
[10:16 PM, 7/6/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: I'm been trying to do some deep exploring of my pyshe
[10:17 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: so dreams are the best material to know ourselves
[10:17 PM, 7/6/2022] Donna Wong: no doubt
[10:22 PM, 7/6/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: I was betrayed after I helped someone
Christine said: 8 7 2022
Not like very busy but tired a lot. I had another dream where I was waiting to take the ferry and watching the water. All of a sudden waves started to come over me and next thing I know I am in the middle of an ocean and loving it. The vastness of the ocean and the cleansing waves were so grand and magnificent and I am in the middle of it.
Sometimes I feel like true learning is unlearning the lies we have been taught. I feel like I am standing in front of 汪洋大海 and 一無所知. It is exciting and overwhelming at the same time.
agreed fully, giving me a sense of resources.
Sometimes we think we have learnt or built in so much already, but in facing problems, we are still feeling 措手不及，平時知道的東西，都未必可以拿出來, 只能靠慣性思維，慣性行為，但微觀看，其實我們是在改變，需要不斷反思和調整。If we still repeat unwanted history , we have not installed the learning into our subconscious mind. Subconscious mind like a baby learning to standing up and walk. Endless falling down and getting up practice to truly master the skills, let our body and muscles deeply get the imprint , memory of the program the learning and teaching
That is why we need to repeat learning, to ask questions and to reflect, and to practice, to do assessments , that is I said review 回顧， 反思，調整，進步。
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