My ideal family - 我理想的家

　　

6-3-2014

Family Therapy workshop - 生命敏感度訓練 （6-3-2014）

今天的家庭圖分解和個人成長故事的分享看到每個人都是一個歷史故事,從自己、別人身上看到幸福就在身邊；更帶我回朔由出生到今天的個人變化,家庭變遷,國家的變革，尋找 -

Who are you?

Why and how have you become present you?

Understand behavior, habits, emotion and belief is influenced by families, society (collective subconscious system) from generation to generation.

Really want to thanks Add's sharing and our group-mates' sharing.

（熙庭看到我的潛意識中，帶大我們的祖母從沒有離開我的心。很感恩她的洞察力）

感恩熙庭給我們的回應和同組伙伴的分享，從中看到做父母的責任，看到什麼是無條件的愛和戴著操控愛和有條件的愛的分別 ，產生的結果。

All of my life experiences tell me that life is a journey - every day is a new day; every day is full of beauty, hope, thanksgiving; Happiness is nowhere except that we accept who we are; except we are grateful for everything we have experienced and share with others, helping others while healing self, go beyond self.

What I learnt most from the sharing can be summarized as follows:

1

Parents are the first and most important teachers, coaches, leaders to children. Their behavior and belief and emotion will play significant impact on children character development.

Children’s character is a combination of their inborn character, experiences with their parents, siblings and important people around.

2

Trying to understand our parents and grandparents better is a channel to understand ourselves and a way to build trust, love, good relationship with people not just family but anyone.

3

From my own growing up experiences, I found parents’ love, trust and support is much more important than just giving us physical security and satisfaction.

Parents who give children a free hand on one side and give love, support and trust on the other hand is the best parents in the world.  Children really don’t need over-protection but heart-to-heart communication and companion. Be their friends rather than a ruler, this will make family life will be much easier and happier.

4

If physical security is a serious issue and parents’ growing up experiences are not pleasant or full of trauma, if they don’t know how to deal with their own issues/inner self, then their children will also become their victims as  parents’ hatred and emotion usually directly cast to children, causing childhood trauma and shadows. A unhappy childhood leads to  unhappy personality and takes time to heal.

5 

The purpose of family therapy is to understand, accept others and ourselves, forgiving both, finding a meaning of life and move forward.

感謝大家對我的回應，提醒我今天的幸福來之不易，I just can't take it for granted.

 更感恩父母為了我們的前途而放棄自己喜歡的事業，來到香港，從零做起。給我們自由空間和資源去發展，但從沒有給壓力我們。一個有充分表達自己，又可以得到安全，互相支持和無條件愛的原生家庭。

這是我需要去繼承的家﹔提供給自己、家人和孩子的家，也是我理想的家。

Reference:

傳心行動、全城感動：歡迎 DP 義工參加

   

傳心行動是台灣資深心靈導師劉仁州與香港的周華山博士一起設計的培訓班，目標是讓香港更多慈善團體的員工和核心義工得到有力支持，尤其是關於原生家庭、父母關係、情緒轉化、人際關係，從而懂得有效轉化負面情緒，以及處理人際矛盾和糾紛。

傳心行動一共三節，一星期一節，每節三個小時。第一、二節的主題分別是：原生家庭(敏感度訓練)、重建與父母的關係(深度醫治)，最後一節是3A(快速情緒轉化方法)和我語句(化解人際衝突的有效方法)。

傳心行動由華山和劉仁州負責培訓，至今培訓了14位導師，大部份是DP教練和組長。如果你想深入處理自己原生家庭的課題，從而得到深刻而徹底的轉化，同時體驗台灣劉老師的功力，鼓勵你參加這個純粹為DP義工而設的訓練。每課我們都會有好幾位導師一起負責，確保給與每位參加者最個人化的支持。你會體驗劉老師獨一無二的課程設計和功力，深刻看到原生家庭對自己深遠的影響，並且即時得到化解和轉化。