人生唯一的出路就是面對自己

ＤＲＥＡＭＳ　ＰＯＳＳＩＢＬＥ

課堂筆記及個人分享  2/3/2013

導師：周華山博士

生命是永無止境的創造過程

生命沒預定的方案

This is wonder of life

人生唯一的出路就是面對自己

I’m sorry.  Please forgive me;

I love you. Thank you- ZERO LIMIT

人生最長的路是從頭走到自己的心，當我們學會放下頭，我到心，我們的人生開始有真幸福。

結婚 : 婚姻是1+1 = 1

人生無論發生什麼事，至少有三個選擇 （三：代表三至無限）

人生就是選擇

責任 – responsibility = ability to response (not react)

(Response – able to choose)

-      able to have a sense of empathy, be human

-      able to filter negative thoughts

-      able to take the consequence of own thoughts and behaviors

-      ability to take action

What does responsibility mean:

Ability to response (not react)

-     ability to choose, judge the right things

-     ability to consider others’ points and benefits

-     ability to act and take risks and the consequence

-     ability to say sorry and move forward

-     ability to delete negative thoughts and emotions

責任不是壓力，而是選擇

It’s never too late to have a Happy Child-hood

改變想法，改變人生，改變世界

The Power of Shadow – 任何我沒有完全接納的東西和經驗，將它們投射在別人身上，令自己逃避，好過一些。

真正有自信和謙卑的人，不會在意別人的意見。

每個人都要為自己生命的所有成果負責任

3A – Acknowledge 承認，面對自己的的 shadow 問題、情緒或成果。

Act : *    choose the best or possible feasible ways

        while considering the consequence

*     Visualize the results of our choice and being the results of the choices

Appreciation (gratitude) : - to be enriched spiritually

感恩                                                    - strength

                                                            - resources

                                                            - giving power

每一日都可能是最後一日，更是新的一日

No plan is plan to death – Steve Jobs

If you don’t know death, you don’t know living

只有原諒別人，才能放過自己

命運由思想決定

我想病就會病， thoughts become things

選擇由思想決定，思想決定選擇，選擇決定行動，行動決定結果 – 人生沒人可以拿走心靈的自由。

大部分人同自己心中的image談戀愛

I want it but I don’t need it.

經常想一想:维持這樣的想法或慣性行為帶來的結果是否自己想要的?

爸爸媽媽的角色是一生一世

最有力量的時候，是學會自己面對自己的時候

笑容對孩子的重要性不可低估

人類所有出發點 – 愛或恐懼

過去發生什麼不再重要，重要的是今天的選擇

所有負面的記憶產生負面的信念和價值觀，導致負面的行動和結果，故所有負面的記憶都會阻礙自己的潛能。

每個人都按照自己的印象去塑造自己看到的世界 – 產生盲點 – ask for feedback

放下期望，享受過程，盡情貢獻

Hate the Sin but love the Sinner

接納不完美才是人生

接納自己不完美的部分

放下自己的頭，找到自己的心

Dark Shadow :    1.   something I hated since I was a child or young

(To resist)                  or not released or forgive

                                           2.      something I really want

Golden Shadow: An icon with character you admire, the character is also your hidden characters

Energy we have

Love/caring/ warm hearted / helping others/ humble unconditional love

收feedback, 才能看到盲點

走出自己匤匤

當每個人都視自己的世界為唯一真相，便會產生批判，產生期望，產生不滿，受害的只是自己和身邊的人。

每次分享，問下別人：你認為如何？你覺得怎樣？

I appreciate you.  我看到你可以有進步的空間，供你參考，不一定對…

要回應(response after thinking over)，不要反應(instant react)

  

沉靜、       慢性、不經大腦、只靠經驗

思考後才說

回應：放下自己、放棄、少用但顧及別人的感受

         要  人“里子”，先要出  別人的面子

     多些聆聽，對別人多些信用，盡量用question to discuss instead feelings and thoughts

            

將自己放下，就可以收到更多

將自己貢獻，就可以得到更多

為自己生命負責任，生命是選擇

換位思考、表里一致

尊重自己/別人的感受，面對感受

 我发现自己开始有幾種力量：

原發的力量:面對自己問題的力量

選擇的力量

行动的力量

愛的力量:感恩、欣賞別人和自己的力量

每日反思、感恩、聆聽自己身體發出的信息、好與不好，作出調整

主動表達，先appreciate別人、自己的intention是創造一個怎樣的結果，找出自己看法以供參考，ask for feedback

沒人可以代替你的自己、感受

問自己，此時此刻，我到底要的是什麼？

生命中每個人都有不同課程，在每個階段所做出的response 都會帶來大大小小不同結果，要自己去承擔和享受。

大部份人同自己的image 談戀愛

I want it but I don’t need it

Accept uncertainty is part of life

Imperfection is part of life

多用表達，不用別人去guess

Clarify all ideas, 讓感情自然流露

A way to set yourself free

表里一致，正面正向的情感表達是很振撼的

大量例子看到只要真正面對自己，力量就來了

笑容對孩子好重要

It’s your choice to live in love or fear

對世界最大貢獻是每人對自己生命負責任

為別人期望而生活，只會令自己的生命充滿不開心的結果

Zero Limits:

When I say I am sorry, I mean it as when I apologize for my mistake, I start to identify my own problems and search for resources for improvement.

When I say Please forgive me, I want to let all negative impact, emotions and memories to be deleted and to look forward, move forward.  I ask my people around allow me to learn from trial and error.

When I say Thank you, I have gratitude towards all I have and people who Iove me and want me to improve.  I regain energy and find many resources and confidence.

When I say I love you, I start to love myself and listen to my soul and subconscious voice, my physical voice and need.  I start to focus from myself to families, friends and people in need.  I have more compassion and empathy and understanding, so that my decisions will be more objective, constructive and effectively.

*  你覺得我生命最需要改變的是什麼？

出發點最重要，如果我們的心是pure, attitude will be positive.

最真的愛是不帶任何要求，給人幸福快樂也為自己帶來同等的快樂。

The one to give love, pure love will get love in return.

Jealous is more disaster weapon to damage a person.

互累症：“No” is a complete sentence.

每個人都對自己的生命負責，必將享受責任的成果及帶給別人幸福

對自己不負責任，必將承受後果和給別人帶來災難

負責任是愛的表現，愛自己、愛別人、不是壓力，不是被迫，而是創造人生。

我選擇去不生氣，愛自己，去明白別人，去理解別人多些，將被傷害的降到最低。

不怨天，不怨地，不怨自己的過去。

沒有黑暗，就看不到明的星星。

我們每個人却有能力解決自己的問題，也是唯一人有能力去處理。

 如果他/她走了，自己是否仍可以生存的，更好或更壞

走出 A type - 每星期去關心一些人，打電話，多謝

換位思考：欣賞自己體諒別人的感受，令自己更歡容

更有同情心，同理心及愛心

將被動人生變成主動人生

 父母的愛可以在自己身上發揮如此大的力量/作用。

知道:但不做

應該盡力:由上而下給別人壓力

希望盡力:等於沒希望，給人沒愛心感覺,毫無能量，行動力弱

盡力：沒有完全盡力

承諾：無論如何搞掂佢

                 Whatever, it takes

如能Focus，必能有結果

真正的承諾是用自己的身體力行去

實踐宇宙大愛

同學們的承諾：

生命無常，但愛可以轉化任何負面的東西

災難可以被負面思想吸引過來

過份理性或感性都不好

Eugene said:多表達自己的愛，每日都感恩

作Zero limit 及對自己負100%責任

為自己生命的所有成果負責任

VISA Graduation Night and My learning

在第一阶段 - DREAMS POSSIBLE (FOCUS-IN):

我学到所有问题都是关系出问题,也是双方的.只要各方都看自己的问题,出路就 打开了. 要看自己,首先要学会谦卑,放下自我.

I will remember that "I am nothing and then I can be everything."  It shows flexibility really gains control.

另外,儿子学到了表达,第一次说"Mommy, I love you. Do pay more attention to your own health and take care of yourself more than anyone else." This was my first time to know I need to learn how to love myself and to know its importance to my life and others' happiness.

I will listen to our body’s symptoms, reactions and let our soul and body in alignment.

在第二阶段 - DAILY ACTION GOAL (HABIT CREATION):

Success is a habit not an instant action. One of the most rewarding things during this period is my coach Louisa trained me to use 3A and zero limit to release negative emotion, transform and to get resources instantly and take action now!

To build a thanksgiving attitude at any time: ups and downs, good or bad ... Now I have formed a gratitude habit before sleep and get up. This gives me strength, fulfillment and peace.

I also learned appreciation of self and others, which makes me feel more resourceful, being loved, confident and relaxed.

Happiness advantage is everywhere if we just keep a happiness attitude and use it.  接受宇宙大爱, use the love synergy to help us.

在第三阶段 - Vision, Integrity, Services and Appreciation – VISA

(FOCUS OUT)

FROM type A TO type H:

Through services, I realize the best way to be self is to lose self in serving others.

I started to have a strong sense of understanding and commitment to the quote:

The more you go beyond yourself, the more you will become yourself:

The more you lose yourself in loving and serving others, the more you will find yourself:

The more your keep company with those who suffer, the more your will be healed and happy.

"感恩(THANKS):无论面对生命中任何事情,都会抱着感激的态度;

施恩(GIVING):将爱传出去,用爱感动世界."

对死亡的恐惧开始转化为对生命意义的追求;每天问自己:我如何令自己的生命令别人快乐些; 如果今天是最后一天,我会留下什么给这个家,朋友和有需要的人.

生命是选择:   参观了几次老人院，加上感恩分享会上残疾人士的表演，令我感到我们是在天堂还是地狱，由心态决定。而心态决定了我们的行动和结果，也就是我们的命运。

To have the thanksgiving and "pay it forward" attitudes:

"感恩(THANKS):无论面对生命中任何事情,都会抱着感激的态度;

施恩(GIVING):将爱传出去,用爱感动世界."

 Through DP platform, 继续磨练，发光发热，I know there is still a long way to go to live fully up to my dream, but every day I purify myself and to give love to others, that is enough.

Read more at 

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/p/princessdi200393.html#KtorHOI5mhDE9PKr.99 

http://www.dreamspossible.hk/core_course/visa

Nothing brings me more happiness than trying to help the most vulnerable people in society. It is a goal and an essential part of my life - a kind of destiny. Whoever is in distress can call on me. I will come running wherever they are.

Princess Diana

第一届香港感恩日分享会

https://plus.google.com/u/0/photos/104204782823179232987/albums/5864102964725083425

http://www.singpao.com/xw/gat/201304/t20130408_428227.html

Today we attended the Thanksgiving Sharing Day and made a record in the event - The largest Bowing Relay was achieved by 470 people together. Just Amazing!

Thanksgiving is an attitude and happiness is a state of mind. In the sharing, we have seen the disable people can still be successful in art field and the disable children can be happy as normal people from their beautiful smiling faces despite of their physical issues. We watched Red family's changes since they moved to Hong Kong. I was deeply impressed by the extremely strong, resilient family... So many inspiring stories and performances just in the event to remind us of so much happiness around us - I cannot take it for granted.  

Just take every day as a gift of life and live in gratitude, we can be much happier to embrace everything happening around us, enjoy them and confident in facing any life challenge.


Let pay it forward: let love and thanksgiving spread to more and beyond ...

殘疾人士和殘疾小朋友的表演令人感動,發人深省:

他們有的一出世就患有先天殘疾,有的有癌症,心臟病,肌肉萎縮等,但他們心中都有一團火,這團火令他們面對困難更有力量,令他們活得有價值,用生命感染生命.

由於他們來到這個世界,令更多人不再放棄.

我在想,他們面上的笑容為什麼比很多人,包括我還燦爛? 他們令自己開心,每天活在當下,就像活在快樂的天堂,而我們反而可以因小事不開心,經常活在昨天的后悔,內疚或明天的擔憂中,其實是把自己推向地獄.真諷刺!


畫家陳冬梅說的好:我寧願做一個有理想的殘疾人士,也不想做一個沒有理想的健全人士.

"感恩(THANKS):无论面对生命中任何事情,都会抱着感激的态度;

施恩(GIVING):将爱传出去,用爱感动世界."

 

 

 

 

 

A celebration of life through visulisation of death

Our Visa group discussion this Tuesday night was unforgettable in my life. I have never ever had such joy and excitement to talk about our final ceremony after death.

Our coaches first shared their attitude to death:

Esther felt no any regret if she has life and death issue today. All of her children have been grown up and well matured to face life challenge. I admire her so much.

Louisa shared the period when she took care of her mother at her period life, in which she realized life is a present and constantly considering the meaning of life : it is not how long we live but what we have done benefit others and how much we have lived up our dreams. I couldn't agree more.

Conchita's sharing about her husband's experience and lesson was profound:  pressure and relationship issue can cause deep depression and cancer! She is determined to not repeat the mistakes by learning relaxation and set a good example to her children in create happy, relaxing family. I was much relieved to see her transformation in face death issue. What an impressive mother she is to me!

Maggie's ceremony was simple and sweet: A big banana shown "Life is a box of chocolate" implies we never know which one is sweet or  ... The result is not important but the process: just to embrace the change in life and face it, enjoy it no matter it is sweet or bitter. I really appreciated her creative ceremony arrangement. She also wants to set a fund for her son's future and study. She will make a good preparation and responsible arrangement before the final day to come.



She would use " A wonderful world" in the hall of the ceremony:

The colors of a rainbow.....so pretty ..in the sky
Are there on the faces.....of people ..going by
I see friends shaking hands.....sayin.. how do you do
They're really sayin...*spoken*(I ....love....you).

I hear babies cry...... I watch them grow
*spoken*(you know their gonna learn
A whole lot more than I'll never know)
And I think to myself .....what a wonderful world
Yes I think to myself .......what a wonderful world.

http://www.lyricsfreak.com/l/louis+armstrong/what+a+wonderful+world_20085347.html

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=m5TwT69i1lU

For me, this topic was one of my favorites despite that it was a taboo in Chinese society.

Death issue to me used to be a fearful topic but curious as well.



When I was 4 and half years old and my brother 3, while we were playing by a pond covered by green weeds perfectly. My brother dropped into water by mistaking it as a grass field. I cried frantically. After a short while, a university student rushed to the scenes and saved his life finally when he dashed him to a clinic. At that time, I followed them to the clinic anxiously. Since then, a seed of love and compassion has buried in my mind.

When I was in my 7,  a boy sitting next to me was dead of drowning. I was in the scenes of his rescue and watched his burying. I was so scared.


When I was 10, my icon was 雷锋, a hero at that age. He died of risking his own life to save others. I started to think my possible death causes: death by rescuing other's life would be the best to me; I started to have a visualization of my death and to consider how to die with a value.

Many years ago, my grandma from my mother side died. Just before her departure at that night, she deeply wished me to have a good marriage. She died very young with heart attack probably due to over-exhaustion. As our three were raised up by her, I feel she has never left us and she always live in my mind.

Then my grandma from my father side died at her high age - 91. She was a Christian and her ceremony was very simple but warm and heartfelt. Her calmness in facing adversity impressed me so much that I think about her often in my life.

When I became an insurance agent, death benefit or living benefit was a core topic in our work.  I consider life insurance agents are extremely meaningful career as death has a positive impact to build our responsibility to our beloved ones.

Then it came to my father-in-law's cancer treatment at the hospital: When I visited him, he told me " In facing diseases, the rich and the poor share the same degree of suffering. Take care of yourself daily." His words reminded to take care our own health

When my son was under delivery on the operation theater, I had a nightmare that I had a bad bleeding out of control at the operation room. I was going to die... This was the first time for me to consider how important my life was to my baby and the family.

In the DP courses, what the most reward to me is I start to face death issue, accept it and befriended with it in my daily life: treat every day as the last day of life as my icon Steve Jobs said:

For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: 'If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?' And whenever the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/s/steve_jobs.html#x11HjAAxfmQZGujg.99



Whenever I think about death, I think about meaning of life - others' life will become happier or different because of my existence.  I would like my life to bring happiness and joy no matter how minor it is.



Based on this philosophy, I would like to have a cheerful ceremony of life instead of memory of myself in a traditional way, in which I can't see anything in the traditional ceremony to serve the people who love me so much anyway.

A very cheerful recent photo to be shown on the wall surrounded by hundreds of roses, different other flowers and woods, all of my favorite kinds of plants.



                                                 High West Mountain in HK (2-2012)

Have you seen the silver linings beaming from the clouds?

People will sing AMAZING GRACE to express gratitude to life and show my thanks to people who have ever helped me in my life.

Yea, when this flesh and heart shall fail,
And mortal life shall cease,
I shall possess within the veil,
A life of joy and peace.

http://www.constitution.org/col/amazing_grace.htm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4qbmPpfG6s

Afterwards " You raise me up" as a gratitude of mime to all people is to sing for my parents, family and my mentors and my icons who have been helped me once in my life again, esp. my parents and my mentors I have been met or online.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up... To more than I can be.

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/joshgroban/youraisemeup.html.

A note with a poet below:

I will be turned into

A glimpse of wave stroking the shore,

A lining of sunlight warming your heart,

A breeze of wind refreshing your face,

And a tuft of flowers smiling to you!

 The note will be read by my son to express my deep thanks to my parents, hubby and all of my family, relatives; my brother and my sister and their families; and all teachers and mentors; to express my learning from my life -

 To find myself through serving others; to heal myself through helping others and to find happiness through helping others;

 The greatest love is to learn how to love ourselves;

 The quality of life is quality of communication;

Live at this moment and live up our dreams fully is my final wish to all people.

I have determined to donate any useful organs to people in need and spread my ash to the South China Sea so that people who love me can see me any time when looking at the sea and any living things from the sea - just go back to nature, we come from H2O and now I would be one of the drop of the ocean, being embraced by the Mother of nature - a blessing indeed, I believe.

Writing at this moment, the saying from Dr Wah Shan that "If I was nothing, I could be everything." Speaking to my mind...

When I went out of the restaurant after three hours talking, I was rejuvenated with a kind of unspeakable gratitude and enlightenment. 

 Things that I was familiar with around me looked so fresh to me - the old bridge, the street I used to live many years ago and the Time Square I like to go...

Life is a box of chocolate ... Life is a present: just live fully with your dreams...




http://wallpaperswide.com/red_roses-wallpapers.html

VISA Vedio sharing and refelction

In the DP courses:

 

We watched lots of heartfelt, inspiring videos:

1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQacqJsWyrs

 

Because kindness keeps the world afloat

 

2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=zOzsjEmjjHs&feature=endscreen

 

The most inspirational video you will ever see Nick Vujicic - No legs, no arms, no worries!

 

3

http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMjY5NTYxODg4.html

 

视频: 《中国达人秀》之真情感动兄弟情深倒立流浪歌手：玉和情.flv

 

What does dream mean to you?

 

人类因梦想而伟大. 小梦大梦不重要，intention and its real influence speaks for itself

 

4 How to express unhappy feeling in direct and factual ways:

 Originated from Parenting skill

http://www.parentingideas.com.au/Blog/September-2010/I-love-I-messages------------here-s-why

 

How to express uncomfortble feeling in a polite and empathy way:

 

This type of response is aimed at develops empathy and is an essential part of the Thriving! Way of parenting. That is, it lets kids know how their behaviour impacts on others.

5 先跟后带 Pace and lead

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxE1wbW0siA

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxE1wbW0siA

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqhSWI4-hnA (mirrow and rapport)

 

6 Father and son run marathon together

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsu4Kj9VCG8

 

7

Pay it forward: To change the world by paying it (LOVE) forward

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZ4UUF_wt4E

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2MDKEMwjY0

 

Published on Sep 8, 2012

Have you seen the movie, "Pay it Forward"? If not, go rent it now!
Touching story about how giving to others without expecting anything in return can bring such satisfaction to ones' heart and soul and make the world better...

 

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All Focus on transformation from I to We, you to We and chasing for dreams. We don't have to be perfect to start our dreams and practice our dreasm. We make ourselves perfect through practicing our dreams.

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Everyday is a gift to life - Old home Visit

Reflection Journal on visiting old homes in this March, 2013

Thanks to DP course, within the last three weeks until yesterday, I have visited three old homes; I have never had such experience in my life in close contact and sharing with a group of people that the society might overlook.

The most favorite, interesting part was to talk with the elderly. I approached about 8 old people and all of them shared about their life present and past with me. Among them, some were over 90 upto 103 and most of them were over 80 and the youngest one was at 50s, some were super positive, optimistic, some were rather depressed and looked in dismay.

All talks gave me a sense of heart stirring and compel me to think why positive thinking is a cure to many diseases and how to stay young, grateful and happy...

The 94 years old lady in the  上水乐天old home was a blessing to me: she has some thing in common with me: we all like eating fruit and vegetable. To satisfy her own obsession for fruit, she often travels to downtown by bus and by train to select her favorite items and back by taxi.

She shared her teeth dropping without any complaining mood but smiling: it was so surprising to see their loose one by one without pain and without notice. Hahaha…What a happy grandma.

Her story reminded me aging is not an issue if we choose to accept it, and adapt to the change. To something we cannot control, we still have choice to stay happy or sad. Life is a matter of choice.

 One the 80s in the 东华三院old home shared her childhood life in Singapore and sang songs to me for several minutes –the name of the song was  三民主义万岁.She told me she was crazy for  singing when she was young and even now she sings whenever the chance has. She had collected some paper of  lyrics with big Chinese  characters and showed me she like 邓丽君songs and 友谊之歌. In the visit, she asked for singing twice and we all liked to sing with her.

 The singer who sang to me lovely

 

Her story told me happiness is a habit and character and a state of mind. To stay happy at old age, we need to learn stay happy from our young age and now.

An old man suffering from stroke in a Causeway old home was heavily smoking alone at the balcony. I tried to talk with him but he preferred to be alone, just asking me help him moving to the ash tray closer. I did for him. Then I was told his son was a rotten gambler, his family was broken by him and the old man has to disappear from him… Sad story.

His story showed some elderly have lost family caring for a long time and they are the most needed group to be looked after by the society.

 Another “young lady” at her 50s at the Causeway Bay old home was a patient with Alzheimer's disease –the most common diseases and killer to the elderly in Hong Kong. I couldn’t get clues from her for my simple questions but the good thing was her beautiful smiling. Just smile is a kind of communications.  Why did she always smile? She feels happy as she told me her daughter picks up home daily. The only thing she was able to share with me. I tried my best to massage her stiff, tight hands and legs to let her feel relaxed and soothing.

I found families’ caring and loving is the most important source to their happiness.

 

Another reminder is to pay attention to  Alzheimer's disease. It is not only old men's issue any longer.

 

http://www.nia.nih.gov/alzheimers/publication/alzheimers-disease-fact-sheet

 

Another impressive interview was a gentleman at his 70s at 东华三院. He was an outspoken guy to the authority of the Home to some extent but his tonality was towards problem solving with solutions. I liked his attitude because he was not only concerning his own name but the benefit as a whole.

The most learning from him was he was grateful for the medical services he got and feels settled and content to be staying at the Home.

He son and the son’s girlfriend just visited him. What he told them was he was fine and asked them not to be there long. "Go out to enjoy your love and yourselves." What a great father he was! This might be a kind of unconditional love.

The last old lady I talked together with my classmate Rosa at 乐天who impressed me specially was at her 70-80s with depression. She kept asking us to call an ambulance to send her to hospital to cut her legs. For what? To stop internal bleeding and pain. The staff told us she just went to the emergency without finding serious problem. This might be a kind of early psychosis. 

 

http://www3.ha.org.hk/easy/eng/what.html#

http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E6%80%9D%E8%A6%BA%E5%A4%B1%E8%AA%BF

In the final discussion period, one of our classmates shared her findings: A lady sleeping at bed was found my classmate’s hand so cold, suggesting my classmate to close her warmer body.

Life influences life no matter how minor our action looks.

All in all, I have come to the following conclusions reminding me to pay attention or practice in my life –

1. Attitude of facing acing aging, diseases and death:

This attitude can affect our health seriously. If we have much fear at these normal courses of life, we will live in worry for tomorrow. We cannot live fully for today. A waste of life indeed!

2. Life can be very vulnerable and unbelievably resilient and strong

The people at their supper high age usually are those with fewer complaints, with more cheer, gratitude and optimistic outlook to life. To them, life is a gift everyday matter how good or bad, raining or sunny. This may be the key to be strong physically and psychologically.

3.  For old people, living with families are the best thing but to people with  happiness state of mind, no matter living at home or at the old homes, their happiness state and emotion will not be affected by environment too much.

4. Old people always long to be heard. Listening to them and let them feel useful and find a sense of value inside of their heart is one of my visions to carry on.

5. To take care of our own emotion and health and beloved ones’ is the most important thing to me any time in my life.

Thanks to our DP classmates, we have a nice memory about the visit at Lei Tian old home:

https://picasaweb.google.com/105145037736058645351/13132013?authkey=Gv1sRgCPPovOj92vOCNQ&feat=email#                               

https://picasaweb.google.com/105145037736058645351/23132013?authkey=Gv1sRgCJK2tYfCreO5Jg#5861951857273712018

 

  

1-4-2013