Section 3 Summary Compassion with our kids, with our inner kid

 Section 3 擁抱情緒，改寫信念，轉化生命

Dear Christine

1 Gratitude

1) Today I was so amazed to see you sitting on table with a pen and some papers, your spirit and preparation and your being was very impressive. 

You reminded me of the time yesterday as I requested. You  Showed me you can!

I found you have learnt a lesson from last blundering of sleep away, missing the class and keeping me waiting for long time. 

This is wonderful. You put the healing in rather important position. It matters. 

This is one grateful thing I must say.  

2) Compassion building process   inner child therapy and Zero Limit 

Another process as I did every time, Gratitude for anything touching your heart in the period of last 13 days.

You said: You become more aware to listen to Ben's voice, not on the surface but inside of his heart. You don't feel immediately upset and not fight back even at his unpleasant tonality or words but shows your compassion to open a channel for communication. 有什麽心事嗎？可以和我分享嗎？

You put your ego aside, put your anxiety, worry, frustration on the back of your head ( eg. worrying for his behavior will affect his future...) , but put his concern, his real messages behind his emotion at your  heart, as more important things.

That is called connection with compassion, so that we can create constructive communication process, our love can be felt or delivered truly and many disastrous confrontation can be avoided. Many new traumas can be avoided. We don't want to give others more traumas , we want inner peace and our peace can influence our people around us.

I often deeply feel that:

I found you are building more solid positive believes:

1 Every one has his own value system, belief and thinking models. We need to respect and to understand each other instead of insisting on our own rightness. There is no absolutely right or wrong. 

2 Everyone is different. We cannot use our judgement to determine others' value, worth. And in return others will not able or have right to judge our value or worth. Then we will have a boundary to keep ourselves at ease and peace, away from frustration and inferiors. We cannot control others, but we can control ourselves. 

There are 2 Quotes as my motors in facing difference:

Then my self healing practice help me to build this belief in resolving conflict and confrontation:

Today I saw your being, your subconscious mind has gradually built up your own compassion philosophy. I am soo happy for you.

  You open heart for exchange ideas and more aspect of facts and life experiences , world views ... 

This is not easy, you are on the way, me too.  Good Rapport start from listening, no hurry to deliver our messages if other  are not ready or we are not finding a better way. 

3 How to deal with anger, anxiety, worry and frustration when things are not going on our ways

situations: 

son's temper, words, behaviors,

The Korean trade time different with your desired time...anxiety in loss in Cryptocurrency Trading

kids are growing up without marriage yet...

Worry of HK unstable society to affect families in HK

Anxiety of Covid 19 pandemic 

Worry of Biden's government policy ... ruining the USA 

How to find inner peace in the unrest world， turmoil global, even something out my control, expectation:

I listened to your stories:

Some years ago, you could be at peace, happy and so passionate to help old people. Why? because you were been seen, be recognised and be empowered by the energy of helping and caring, by yourself. You found your value. This is you. Your energy is till there, just need to excel instead of to be buried by your emotions in those situations.

You mentioned your mom how to see money and that sense of insecurity is still there. Similar. 

Behind your money view, you want make money to have freedom, to do what you what and to help family and people in need. So you are in fear of loss them... You see, u have good intention but also have childhood trauma trapping you to make your mind proportional worry - anxiety if things are not always on your desire or in alignment with your value system.

This rooted cause projects in your daily emotion, habitual emotions and make your loss of balance even when u make profit actually, even when your boy studies well and you have a beloved family, good life companion - Mr Methew.

I asked you to connect with your all emotions in your mind. touch them. and say to them:

As I was to play as your childhood  JINJIN, I found she wanted to hear you love her from your heart. 

You initially could not truly do it with a thought that she is my emotion, she is not good enough and not...

Then I said: JinJin wanted to hear you love who she is, not a perfect one you desired. 

Your heart was opened up. You said I love who I am, I love a truly, vivid , grounded self, 當下的我，實實在在的我，真實的我

She is tough, never give up at facing difficulty and compassionate at facing childhood trauma.

she is simple, plain, honest, guileless, sincere樸素、誠實、樸實、真誠...

She has emotions , she has anxiety and worry... 

All are yourself, you feel calm when you accept yourself. 

Your inner child feels to be truly embraced and accepted at that time. You feel calm when your beauty and vulnerability in oneness.

Your progress let me think about this talk I sent to you:

You can listen it again to do as self affirmation process as homework:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hEUXUHAkC5A

Vulnerability is not about winning, it's not about losing, but it is about having courage to show up and be seen

What is vulnerability feelings about?   vulnerability is certainly a part of fear and self doubt and grief of loss and uncertainty and shame... Vulnerability is also the birthplace of love, joy , trust , a belong , empathy, creativity and innovation. Without vulnerability, we cannot create. 

Today you did more on turning vulnerability to calmness, self love and self care. happiness.

Congratulations!

You become more accept yourself,  a big step to heal your traumatic emotions and to say good bye to them and turn them into life transformation.

3 Habit analysis on Eating, nutrition for ADD 

When ADD was found in later life, mostly probable reasons are some traumatic damage to the brain by accumulating emotions and events, internalized them.  esp. from childhood, that makes genetic changes in brain. 

Nutrition is key to resolve and control emotion for ADD in addition to mental health healing

Please listen to this again if u have not yet:

https://youtu.be/3dqXHHCc5lA

I have done a certain of cases with depression,  anxiety, ADD and bipolar symptoms...autism  dementia, complex in emotions and diseases like debetis, hypertension...most cases are not just one but mixed issues. And they are getting more common in my work. 

I have realized only mental therapies and medication 💊  is less effective and not last longer. Brain and body need micro nutrients to reduce symptoms and recover the damaged cells, to change their negative state easier and sleep better,  to lose weight and improve immunity from body to soul.

This speech is very encouraging. 

In your case, lots to do step by step.

When you change in your body , so does in your mind. And vise versa. Mental health is the key factors but diet, nutrition therapy,  exercise and sleep all enhance your health quality and life quality. 

And also impacts on Ben.

During the process,  old mindset and habit need to put aside, to accept new ideas,  which is crucial for becoming better self.

When analised you eating habit, I gave your following suggestions:

1 eat less processed food 

2 eat less sweet fruit

3 eat more vegetables and good fat, organic fat better

4 arrange your activities in a relaxing and within physical ability and mental ability. DON"T BURN OUT. 

ADD need lots of compassion and understanding of themselves, their issues and causes from body side, medical side and metal side. 

You are on the way...

I heard your inner voice say to your inner child - 

I love you by learning to see an imperfect you perfectly, to accept who you are and to learn to be perfect. I am learning to be your great inner parent and growing up with you hand in hand. 

This is also my inner voice to myself

共勉

[20:09, 4/13/2022] Christine再見情緒創傷: I really feel I am more in touch with the inner child after our session

[21:41, 4/13/2022] Donna Wong: I can feel it,  the topic example was you said you love the authentic self, who you are even she has anxiety or fear, but she also have strength  toughness,  never giving up spirit.  You have vulnerability as well as courage, like everyone and me as well.

[21:45, 4/13/2022] Donna Wong: As my English is very poor, I may not exactly express myself well and I may not accurately describe what u said.or thought at the section. 

I think you got it.

You just point out my mistakes or correct them freely.

[22:02, 4/13/2022] Donna Wong: Dr Berg vedios become my nutrition knowledge 📚

[22:03, 4/13/2022] Donna Wong: I listen to his newest ones and also older ones as my nutrution dictionary

[22:04, 4/13/2022] Donna Wong: you need probiotecs more than normal ones. Actually they help in many ways as important as vitamins

[22:11, 4/13/2022] Donna Wong: And gradually u will be accept yourself as human, who has ups and downs and it's OK  to be not OK. Then we can me more OK than not OK. Me too

[09:55, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: pay attention to nutrition   eating habits v.s. emotion state 覺知多些這方面

[09:55, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: 極大幫助

[09:55, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: only mental help is not enough

[09:55, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: this is your routine I very concern

[09:56, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: about

[09:57, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: sleep quality

[09:57, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: as well

[09:58, 4/14/2022] Donna Wong: can you check the schedule and let me know your 4th section time at your convenience

Everyone's need is different. The key is we need to see how much we  need by observe health change, and see if you are enough or not, usually they are not enough in taking the supplements according to many case studies for ADD, Autism and mental health problem. U are much better than many. Just my my idea for ur ref.

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2015/02/blog-post_13.html for ur ref. my learning notes and experiences on HAND ENERGY HEALING COURSE

昨天的section，我們兩個合作的很好，把各種情緒帶給身體的感覺連在一起，（ 加上過去的情緒創傷 - 内在小孩和身體連結），通過手療和零極限，傳達發至内心的愛和慈悲。感受到脆弱背後好多力量，一些情緒創傷得以修復。以後的sections, 我們也會繼續發揮這個方法的效力。 你學過手療，你可以發揮在自己身上了。真好。

[24:05, 4/15/2022] Donna Wong: More on Nutrition for your reference: Nutritional Intervention For ADD

One of the most overlooked factors in managing the symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) is that of dietary intervention.   The ‘food piece’ can play a significant role in the manifestation of symptoms for this commonly diagnosed disorder in both children and adults.   Addressing the foods in the diet that may be contributing to symptoms can be very beneficial in managing inattention.   Knowing which foods to minimize and which foods to include in the diet can be very helpful for those who suffer from ADD.   Here are some key dietary practices to consider for optimizing attention:

[24:05, 4/15/2022] Donna Wong: Eliminate artificial colors and flavors

Eliminate preservatives

Include healthy fats

Watch refined sugar intake

Eat more whole foods

Additional Considerations

 Daily exercise 

 Commonly used supplements include B vitamins, zinc, fish oil, digestive enzymes, probiotics, amino acids and various herbs.

[24:07, 4/15/2022] Donna Wong: In my cases for  ADD and Autistic cases and weight management , I found : 如何改變飲食習慣，真是不簡單， 很多時候而且需要一定的心理治療作爲輔助。很多習慣，都和心理障礙有關，和童年習慣和心理創傷有關。