How to be influential ?

If we can influence others, if we can empower others, our potential will develop fully and make a big difference to ourselves and others.

The thing is no matter you want to or not to be influential, from your first crying when born, you have made a big impact on your family and people around you.

Influence is no longer about doing something to someone to get what you want. Real influence is about forging deep connections quickly, stepping into someone’s world authentically, and striving for consistent win/win outcomes.

we build greater trust with the recipient of the message by profoundly increasing safety, belonging, and mattering.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/christinecomaford/2013/06/26/how-to-influence-anyone-any-time-anywhere-4-subconscious-secrets/

How to be more influential and connect people in more intimate way?

• Be sincere and frank. Be smile and relaxed. Be interesting. With pure intention to help others while  helping self or healing self. 
• Show our courage,compassion and empathy.
• Take our ego at the door and focus on others' issues and help them to solve. The more we put others' interest at the first place, the more we are in alignment with collective subconsciousness. HUMANITY TAKES CONTROL.
• Let people be themselves, relaxed. The more relaxed, the more happier and creative we are.
• By sharing our fears, failures and setbacks and gratitude even in downside, we are encourage ourselves and others to gather strength to pick up

This because we speak out for other people when sharing our shadows/darkenss, we create resonance, makes us more human, more humble, equal and ordinary. People will feel we are reachable, approachable, understanding with passion to help them.

Carl Jung once said  “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

To share our own vulnerable parts and see our darkness will connect people massively, as we are talking about human weakness and set an example of daring to face our fears (core emotions -selfishness, guilt and helplessness,   jealousy…), showing our compassionate and forgiveness.

To be influential means we need to be high self confidence on ourselves. Self affirmation via hypnotherapy on confidence will help us to achieve it. The reason is hypnosis is all about pretend and imagination. Any change takes place in subconscious mind.  So if we convince our subconscious mind to trust us that YES, WE Can by affirmation, we can build a belief that YES, WE CAN. SUBCONSCIOUS MIND doesn't know the difference between reality and imagination, they will project our belief to outside to show Yes, We can. That is action power. The more we pretend, the more our subconscious mind will be convinced and the more action we will take to prove our belief  Yes, we can. 

What really struck me in the yesterday DP training  come to the following two points:

1  How to be a person with vision but without too much pressure?

 Vision is not expectation. 

Here is what Mandela statement of the importance of Vision.

Vision without action is just a dream, action without vision just passes the time, and vision with action can change the world." (Mandela)

Expectation involves under estimation - without considering the possible limitations, mistakes and failures to occur. But as a fact of life, failures and mistakes are normal, if we embrace any changes or mistakes, we will just enjoy the process, at the same time prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

2 How to be truly let go ?

“Let go” doesn't mean we don’t care about our issue, instead, we can see it from different perspective – a more proactive, positive , or optimistic views towards issues so that we can find better choices to solve it with our resources and creativity and truly move forward.

23-12-2013