A Birthday Letter from Mom

Dear Gene,

Father yesterday watched your infant videos again for hours. Coincidentally, it was your birthday. I reminded him of this and suggested buy a cake, He immediately did it with joy.

So much reflections he told me mixed with overflowing thanks and gratitude to me, you and grandparents, Xia, Patrick, Qiu and Jean and his original family; Actually he is very sentimental. The biggest gift you gave him is the grade of UST graduation. Yes, you made it out of blue?! Maybe not really. 

He has probably realised short temper is his deadly weakness and he can see this shadow reflected in his second generation - you sometimes, that is probably why when you say something hurting him (despite your  kind intention ), he still can control his temper though he shows not really happy. You can see he is learning to forgive and to understand. He is often happy to tell me your temper is much better than his partly because of the self development courses you took. I just forgot to tell you.

He thanked me for my compassion. forgiveness and understanding. That is I deeply grateful and appreciated. Truly I have lots to improve, esp. in how to get my ideas across. You know if everyone can see through intention to treat others, there are much less unnecessary arguments because most behaviors come from good causes. But that is too conscious and ideal.  

I found in communication, subconscious mind takes control. Tonality and presuppositions of both parties determine the results of each sentences. That is why it is not what we say but what being received. Clarification and follow-up is always a must to ensure the results are what we want, not in the opposite as a responsible person  Ask for feedback and use more like "how do you feel? What do you think? " can help to reduce misunderstanding.

In retrospect, reality is much better than expected to us and everyone usually. You have experienced schools life, IB and now U life, graduation and then the first job... I found things can be easier and more effortless in the future with the following life experiences of collectives in human that I found - 

No fear, no limit.

Success is not by chance but by habit. Habit is subconscious action without thinking. 

(Good habit is not built overnight. No short cut but practice and practice.

90% of destiny is not determined by outside factors but but internal quality. 

With happiness mindset, we can pre-enjoy the successful results ( Visualizing /Being we are there, then just do it and then have it) ( BE DO HAVE - Wah Shan), this is to say one can harness happiness advantage to gain synergy by alignment of subconscious mind with conscious mind. 

Happiness attitude, gratitude mindset is the key to have a happy life.

Then as NLP trainer Peter says

 Life can be easy. Happiness is easy ...

How to achieve the above easy life goals, hypnosis can help. 

Hypnosis is a self teaching or self coaching process with strong intention to open our mind, seeking unlimited resource for change, improvement, opportunity  and see the ocean of inner energy...

Happy birthday and cheer! 

Open the beer from 杭州 tonight?

Mom

24-10-2013