如何用生命感染生命 -了悟生死工作坊

上星期六参加了了悟生死工作坊。感觉是非常振撼。

 

華山的三段生死離別的經歷，我們看到他的轉變，看到什麼叫做真正原諒；看到愛，關懷，支持帶來的給病人巨大力量和生命力；如何接受事實，面對死亡，看到他真正體驗生死后所帶來的的豁達和釋放，人生如何完全不一樣。

 

他確實給我們做了一個活在當下的榜樣。

 

This workshop was quite different from his others as the topic is a taboo for many Chinese. To me, it was extremely touching and thrilling. He shared his three closed family members experience in facing dying and his life lessons in dealing with this tough issues. I remember his big reflection is no one can do better and helpful than the family members to help their beloved one in facing death issues. Their loves and support will relieve pain, reduce the grief period and even extend life. His mother extended more than two years with embraced caring, love and support from Wah Shan and his siblings.

 

Wah Shan sets a real, lively example how to cope with death issue positively that everyone will have soon or later.

I  realised what it means by LIVING FULLY in THE PRESENT! And how to live fully in the presence.

 

His experience reminds me a book - Stare at the Sun by Dr. Yalom :

Written in Irv Yalom's inimitable story-telling style, Staring at the Sun is a profoundly encouraging approach to the universal issue of mortality. In this magisterial opus, capping a lifetime of work and personal experience, Dr. Yalom helps us recognize that the fear of death is at the heart of much of our anxiety. Such recognition is often catalyzed by an "awakening experience"—a dream, or loss (the death of a loved one, divorce, loss of a job or home), illness, trauma, or aging.

 

Once we confront our own mortality, Dr. Yalom writes, we are inspired to rearrange our priorities, communicate more deeply with those we love, appreciate more keenly the beauty of life, and increase our willingness to take the risks necessary for personal fulfillment.

 

华山说：

 

死亡﹐是生命最伟大的发明﹐促使我们认真面对生命的价值﹐不至虚度一生。

可是﹐传统中国社会对死亡充满忌讳﹐不提﹑不讲﹑不听﹑不问﹐譬如把丝瓜说作胜瓜﹑空屋说作吉屋﹐连「死」这个字也不能说﹐彷佛死亡等于悲痛和绝望。我们歌颂生命﹐却排斥死亡﹐视死亡为生命的敌人﹐以至大家很少积极探讨和准备。所以﹐当死亡突然来临﹐大家就束手无策﹐只能无奈地说「节哀顺变」﹐压抑了丧亲者的感受和需要﹐取而代之的﹐往往是无止境的哀伤﹑内疚和遗憾。

人生是个大舞台﹐此幕终结﹐彼幕展开。生死就如角色﹑身份和戏服的转换。生有时而爱无尽﹐唯独我们活现生命的每个角色﹐到「人生大戏」谢幕时﹐看似曲终人散﹑分道扬镳﹐其实是在下一个剧目里喜悦重逢﹑重新上路。

怎样「生」﹐就怎样「死」。生得有意义﹐死得有价值。死亡既如花开花落般必然和自然﹐错过死亡﹐就错过了生命的礼物。真正可怕的﹐不是生命终结﹐而是虚度光阴﹑遗憾终老。

了悟生死工作坊﹐让我们温馨而积极地体验生死的价值﹐学习用感恩和爱的力量﹐面对死亡。这是一个充满力量﹑感动和爱的工作坊﹐华山博士会分享母亲和家人离世的感动和启发﹐分享转化恐惧的心路历程﹐然后带领大家一起体验了悟生死的豁达和释放。这是一个精心设计的工作坊﹐适合任何状况的成年人参加。

26-1-2013