Finding your children's strength

Sharing - 爱的种子 （Parenting )

Last night, Eugene,me and my classmate Chan Lai Wha went to the  talk on "SEEDS of GREATNESS" (parenting course)

Here is some sharing:

 Eugene's notes:

children learn from everything, especially those with more contact.
What they do vs How to do it.

Chances are challenges.

children need encouragement to get through challenges and get over obstacles.
An atmosphere to recover from failures or negative influences and recover self esteem.
Push or Pull?
Comparing with others leads to unfullfillment.

People will change their behaviour.
Encouragement will establish the foundations of self esteem  from the beginning.
Self esteem puts you equal with the world. The 50cc vs the S500. Confidence makes all the difference.
Learn to love yourself.
Know that everyone has their reasons.
Know how to thank people and yourself.
Don't change because of others.

Self confidence:
Belonging.
Acceptance. Love everything you Are and stand for.
Privacy.
Place of safety.
Respect.
Sense of security.
You can help yourself and everyone else.
Self Discipline

Know child strengths.

Why do girls draw so cleanly? Anything to do with the brains????
1 layer) White matter? Clearly defined objects? Discrete objects are read and written. The cleanly defined allows better focus, but also the need for better segmentation.

My notes;

Parents should create chance for their children to develop their dreams and show their potential. Their dreams, not our dreams. This is seed that might affect their whole life. Encourage them to drop down their dreams.

Everyone is special. Find the special of your children, encourage them to shine.

Self assurance, self value,self-confidence is the inner beauty, inner energy  that will not be affected by any outside factors.

To appreciate your children at any circumstance, even when they made mistakes. That is the front door - rapport before we can communicate with them. 

People with self assurance know how to adjust themselves at any circumstances. (作一个温度计还是调温计?)

They like to share, to appreciate and to help. They want everyone to be wise and smart and compassionate, their fulfillment is not based on their own superiority of any aspects over others but on sharing collective improvement and achievement.

Everyday we need to appreciate /thank three people; encourage your children to do this themselves.

To have the 4A: Acceptance, affection (influence), affirmation (Self assurance) and appreciation.

To build 4 basic elements of human being: self-value, self-assurance, a sense of belong and self-discipline.

3 gifts to our children: self confidence, ambition, preservation ( toughness)

 

Heaven is place of sharing. 

A true self-esteem is to accept, the appreciate, to adjust and to act and influence. 

A real self- confidence will not be affected by environmental effect but  embrace challenge anytime.