A life fighter

  
Could you imagine a lady who  had paralyzed for more than 17 years, struggling for life until her last breath?

My mother-in-law is one of the strongest persons I have ever seen.  The most important thing she has left us is her attitude to life and spirit  of courage and toughness. Her leave also struck me to have a deep reflection on the meaning of life.

During this period, her stories strike my heart so powerfully that I couldn't help to drop down my thoughts and send to her as a memory.


 

Date: 13-9-2011

An old lady peacefully sleeping there,

 

Without hysterically panting and breathing,

 

The first time I'd seen for the last decade …

 

She’s gone to the never-land – a heaven for soul,

 

No pain, no worry, no anxiety for her children anymore.

My mother-in-law has left physically.

 

Surreally, I have no slight feeling that she is not around us.

 

Quite the opposite, we are closer to each other than ever…

We are in communication with her, heart by heart, every minute…



Being paralyzed in bed for more than 17 years,

She survived endless emergency treatments.



She has been the most admired person in my mind,

A heroine, a life-fighter, a person who never said die!

  
Many people would have chosen leaving rather than staying,

But she chose staying despite tons of suffering from multi-diseases' affliction and torture.

  

She has left us so much…
 

That is the meaning of life:

Love yourself and be compassionate to others,

 

Your life will be more fulfilling.

 

You can face any difficulties in life.

Your fearless life has proved the fact again:

People living with passion can be tougher than those without.

 

People living with compassion can be more resilient than those without.

Life is stronger than death.

Now what I’ve learned most is not about death but living:

 

Death is only part of life.

The less we know it,

The more fearful we are about it.



If we don’t know how to face death,

We cannot set ourselves free from fear of death,

We will miss so much joy and happiness in life.



  To treat every day as the last day,

We will love and care for ourselves and others more,

Cherish and treasure what we have more.

Making each day never the same.


 

My dear mother-in-law,

We have got your message drifting from heaven:

“I will be happier if you would think -

 

I’ve just returned to nature as the sun sets in the west;

But the sun rises tomorrow from the east and life goes on and on.

  Just remember:

Every day you are in heaven

If you think what you have possessed more than what you have lost.



Happiness is always around you

It is your mind which makes hell heaven

And heaven  hell.



To look forward instead of being trapped in a grieving mood.

To celebrate life and rejoice in life.

As life is so precious that it can’t take two.



The world is so big,

There are so many dreams for you to fulfill,

There is so much happiness for you to pursue.”


 
My dear mother-in –law,

 
Thanks for your life teachings,

We are so proud of being your descendants.



As a life fighter and great conqueror,

You will be always in our mind.
 

We will love you forever.

Dear Mather-in-law, here is a beautiful poem for you in the Mid-Autumn Festival:


“I have turned into

A glimpse of a wave stroking the shore,

A lining of sunlight warming your heart,

A breeze of wind refreshing your face,

A bunch of grass relaxing on the hill,

And a tuft of flowers smiling to you!"



-Anonymous