Improvement in many ways

B,

The Korea trip and many events like all of the self-psychological development courses and SU activities you have involved have brought a sight of sea-change in your attitude to people and emotion control.

Recently, there are three things that you amazed me so much. 

First was how to deal with the Brian’s gas guns. Actually it was an issue how to take a balance between friendship, your commitment and your father’s serious concern. Your calmness and perfectly control in your emotion in face of your father’s emotional advice or overreaction and brilliant balance in the two relationships impressed me so much. I didn't know exactly how you solved it so clearly, quickly. But I believed you started to use tactic and what you learnt before to soften the issue that could be a serious family trouble /confrontation otherwise if you were also as hot tempered as your father. I didn’t take your father’s view completely but I did understand his point and knew it could be serious despite the slight chances. From this I was relieved to see your significant change in emotional control and problem solving ability and if keeping going, you will be on the way to gradually gain leadership mindset – how to soften crisis with a balanced views and learn to be a good mediator, negotiator and leader.

The second thing: I found you start to try to explain complicated ideas in an easier way, to get your idea across as clear as possible with more logic and systematic approach. “If you want to say something, say it clearly.” Chris Howard has such saying. I appreciate this so much. U-life is an exchange of life experiences with your school mates and lectures/scholars and a process of Communication skill jump start.  

On the Sat. lunch in the restaurant, you explicated why it is crucial to look things on forward, optimistic way with example of Steve Jobs. Your father got your ideas and looked especially brightened up that time by your enlightening opinions from the point of "NLP or computer science". 

The third thing was I never expected you went to Grandparents’ home to take stuffs atsuch late time - already midnight on the way home. Thanks you so much. You become much empathetic towards others and begin seeing things from more perspectives. 

Mom

"要有所成就，唯一方法是熱愛你的工作"

明報專訊 7-10-11

Reborn and restart - never say "Give Up"

「Stay Hungry Stay Foolish」（求知若飢，虛心若愚），那是2005年喬布斯出席史丹福大學畢業禮的演辭。演辭的錄影在YouTube被全世界人翻看再翻看了651萬次，是YouTube歷來第四段最受歡迎的短片。喬布斯在演說中重溫了自己的前半生——輟學、被炒、患癌，一些你我都會遇上的人生低點，於喬布斯，卻變成重生的起點。

輟學

　“「你要相信，眼前的東西，將來都會連在一塊。」”

　喬布斯說，人生就是點點滴適的串連，「唯有在未來回顧時，才會明白它們是如何串在一起，所以你要相信，眼前的東西，將來都會連在一塊。」而造就喬布斯的第一個人生小點，是當年的輟學經驗。

　1955年出生的喬布斯，其母親是大學研究生，喬布斯出生後不久就被她交給人領養，養父母當時答應生母，將來必定會送喬布斯上大學。1972年，喬布斯選擇了俄勒岡州的里德學院，但短短半年他就決定退學，「那時候，我不知這輩子要幹什麼，也不知道念大學有何用。我為了念書，花光了我父母這輩子的所有積蓄，所以我決定休學，相信前面總有路走。」

　休學期間，喬布斯住在友人家中，晚上席地而睡，靠收集來的空汽水樽換取零錢為生，周日晚上走11公里路去印度廟領取晚餐，空餘時亦報讀了大學內的書法班，「如果我沒有上那門課，麥金塔（蘋果電腦）就不會有多重字體及間距選擇，然後被微軟（Microsoft）抄襲。如果我沒有輟學，世界上所有的個人電腦大概都不會有那些字體。」

　空餘學書法成就獨特蘋果電腦

　1975年，20歲的喬布斯與友人Woz在家中的車房中設計出地球上第一台個人電腦，蘋果於10年間就變成了市值20億美元（156億港元）的大企業，但推出首台麥金塔之後不久，他就被自己的公司開除。

被炒


“「唯有愛你所做的，才能有偉大的成績。若你還末找到，繼續尋找，不要停步。」”

　1983年，蘋果邀請了百事可樂的副總裁斯卡利（John Sculley）出任蘋果總裁，後來因為公司產品銷量下挫，喬布斯被斯卡利和董事局拉下馬，「成年之後的重心就此不見了，這確實摧了我，之後好幾個月，我真的不知如何自處。」「我自覺對不起走在我前頭的企業家，我將他們交給我的棒子給扔了……我甚至想過離開矽谷。」但再一次，絕處於他成了重生機會。而驅使他繼續向前的，是他對工作的熱愛，「事後看來，在蘋果被炒魷成為了我一生最美妙的事——成功的重擔換上重新上路的輕盈，它將我帶到人生中創意爆發最激烈的日子。」

　人生創意爆發最激烈時期

　往後的5年，喬布斯創立了新公司NeXT，亦即是電腦動畫巨擘Pixar的前身，亦遇上了妻子、小說家Laurene Powell。公司製作出全球首部電腦動畫電影《反斗奇兵》（Toy Story）大收旺場，而峰迴路轉，蘋果於1996年收購了NeXT，喬布斯亦回歸蘋果，而NeXT正在研發的技術，帶動了蘋果後來的「文藝復興」，揭開下一個世紀蘋果盛世的序幕。

　 「（離開蘋果）確是一劑苦口良藥。有時候，人生會給你當頭痛擊，但不要喪失信念，我深信，唯一一樣令我繼續走下去的東西，就是我愛我所做的事，你也要尋找你所愛的，無論是工作抑或愛情。工作佔了我們大部分的時間，要在工作上滿足，就要相信你做的是偉大的事情，而唯有愛你所做的，才能有偉大的成績。若你還末找到，繼續尋找，不要停步。」

患癌


　“「你們的時間有限，不要浪費時間活在別人的生活裏。」”

　 2004年，喬布斯證實患上了胰臟癌，「醫生告訴我那幾乎是不治之症，叫我有心理準備，餘下的日子不會多於3至6個月。」直至後來經化驗，證實他患上的是一種罕有的胰臟癌，可以透過手術切除，「醫生們在顯微鏡下觀察細胞後，都哭了起來。」

　「可能是生命中最大發明」

　喬布斯說，那是他跟死亡最接近的時間，亦對死亡有了新的理解，「沒有人想死。即使那些想上天堂的人，也想活上天堂。但死亡是我們共同的目的地，無人逃得過。這是註定的，因為它本身很可能是生命中最大的發明——它讓生命改變，將變老的帶走，為新一代留下空間……你們的時間有限，不要浪費時間活在別人的生活裏，不要盲從信條，盲從信條就是活在別人的思考裏面。不要讓別人的意見淹沒了你內在的心聲。最重要的，是要擁有跟隨內心與直覺的勇氣，你的內心與直覺，多少知道你真正想要成為什麼樣的人，而任何其他事物都是次要的。」

　「求知若飢，虛心若愚」（Stay Hungry Stay Foolish）並不是喬布斯原創的，那是60年代一本喬布斯喜愛的一本刊物——《地球目錄》 （Whole Earth Catalog）最後一期送給讀者的臨別贈言。56歲的喬布斯提早離開了，如今，這短短幾個字的智慧，亦成為他給後輩留下的一份小禮物。

喬布斯語錄


　【明報專訊】論設計﹕「為了晚上睡得安穩，美學和質素要貫徹始終。」

　《花花公子》1985年2月

　「當你問有創意的人如何做到某些事情，他們會有點內疚感，因為他們沒做什麼，而是看到什麼……他們能聯繫不同經驗，變化出新事物。其成功因素，是他們累積的經驗較多，或他們比其他人反思更多。」

　《連線》雜誌1996年2月

　論產品﹕「每當革命性產品出現就會改變世界……在事業生涯中能造就出如此一款產品實屬幸運，蘋果很幸運能為世人引入多款革命產品。」

　2007年公開iPhone的場合

　論營商﹕「革新來自我們對千種事物說不，確保我們不會走錯路或嘗試做得太多。我們總在是想如何打入新市場，但只有說不，我們才可集中鑽研真正重要的事物。」

　《商業周刊》2004年10月

　論人生﹕「你的工作將佔據人生的大部分，唯一追求真正滿足的方法，就是投入那些你認為重要的工作。要有所成就，唯一方法是熱愛你的工作。若你還沒找到這種工作，繼續找，不要放棄。」

Invicible thinking - turning nagatives into positives

To memorize our great visionary, relentless inventor and tech titanic leader and an aspirator, Steve Jobs, I listened to his 2005 famous speech again, I was inspired to find my own direction and  turn passion into benefit for people.

http://onemansblog.com/2010/02/01/steve-jobs-outstanding-stanford-commencement-speech-from-2005/

Steve Jobs' has left us so much. He was the best example how to be an invincible thinker - turning negatives into positives and turn passion into invention and success.

He was a relentlessly creator, inventor. He has leaded the trend of computer technology and all the world just follows and was inspired to be more creative for a decade. His i-products have a common character - that is simple but elegant, beautiful and user-friendly.

I extracted some main points from his speech in Red that I have been always appreciated and inspired -

Life is learning: All of his experiences became his sources of learning and he never wasted any of his experiences in life.

"you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life."



His legacy shows -

All experiences in life will be connected, shaping our character that determines our destiny. So treat our Experiences as learning process and keep going and Always move forwards no matter happened.. All experiences, no matter it is positive or negative,  from self or others, it will be useful if we learn from it.


His attitude to setback and adversity:

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

In his dictionary, there was no GIVE UP but restart.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

His attitude to death is one of his most powerful catalyst  to his success:

"Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true. (drastic:intense, vivid and affected)

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma (other people’s belief) — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."

His Mottos:

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

This quote encourages people to be curious always and be audacious all the time, no any limiting factors will affect his passion. This is Steve Jobs' momentum and favourite quote.

"When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something."

He is not only an inventor and great tech titanic, but a spiritual icon. Steve Jobs' spirit will never die and he will always live in our mind.

人生沒有草稿

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一位父親讓小孩與老先生學書法，用舊報紙練字多年，可是小孩一直沒有多大的進步。

老先生對父親說：「如果你讓小孩用最好的紙來寫，可能會寫得更好」。


從此以後，父親就按照他說的去做。

結果，小孩的字大有長進了！問其原因，老先生說：「因為你用舊報紙寫字的時候，總感覺是在打草稿，即使寫得不好也無所謂，以後還有機會，所以就不能完全專心，而用最好的紙，你就會感覺機會的珍貴，有一種很正式的心態，從而也就比平常練習時，更加專心之至，用心去寫，所以字也就能夠寫好。」

想想自己走過的人生路程，是不是也有草稿上練字的那種心態，以至於使許多願望沒能實現？

其實，就是因為曾經以為自己還是來日方長，所以才一次次地失去難得的機遇，白白地浪費了一張又一張的人生好紙。

老是在以一種非介入的心態做事，只是把生活中許許多多事情當成演習，而不是真刀真槍的實戰，所以就沒有完全發揮出自己的潛能和專長，更沒有全力以赴地去做事，結果就可想而知了！

許多時候，我們總把希望寄托在明天，不珍惜生命，對人生就像寫字一樣，往往不注重字寫得怎樣，而只是看花費了多少紙。

生命不應該打草稿，而現實的生活也不會給我們打草稿的機會，因為我們每一天所做的事，其實就已經是我們人生的答案卷--- 無法更改，亦無法重繪。


別讓生命再打草稿，我們要珍惜每一次機會，認真對待每一天。用行動去愛你周圍的人，你的生命便會變得更有價值、充實和有活力。

Our respect and tribute to Mr Ng

DATE: 29-9-2011

Dear Ms Ng and family,

We are 黄仁杰's family and I am Donna. I have heard that Mr Ng just left us this afternoon. We are here to share with your pain and sorrow for loss such a good member of your family and friend of our family.

Mr Ng was one of the kindest and warmhearted persons we had ever seen. He became  my  insurance client as soon as I advised him to purchase an insurance, although he had one or two already. He definitely wanted to give his family the best protection. On top of that, together with Chun Chun,, they spent half day showing our around  UST in December 2009, boosting  my son's confidence in getting into this prestige university.

Some days ago, we have sent our earnest concern and support to him -

Dear Samuel,

 

Wong Yan Kit and our whole family here send our best wish for you and are so gratified to see you are positively battling the disease. Meanwhile we enjoy your hobby that brings us so many beautiful views of our nature.

 

Actually nothing is more important then having a positive attitude to life and optimistic view to ourselves. It is the first medicine we need to cure any diseases. I wish we are as positive as you in adversity.

We understood these days will be the most difficult time for you. We are here to send our warmest concern and deepest condolence. We are sure you will strongly get through  the hard time ...


Take care!

Wong Yan Kit
Donna
Eugene

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30-9-2011

Kit,

It was my first time to call somebody in such sad time. I was hesitate because I didn't want to make them sadder. But I know I must do something to express our concern and caring.

I was surprised and gratified to find the voice of Mrs Ng was peaceful, calm and soft as usual. She said his husband has given the whole family so much positive energy  that she and two sons are learning from him to be strong and serene during this hard time. She told me Mr Ng didn't suffer as bad as expected and had done proper arrangement before his leave so that the whole family would not be panic but can be easier to get through grieving time.

I told her we have sent our concern to them through Mr Ng's email. She said their sons will check the emails.

We shared our tribute to him by remembering his hobbies and pictures. We all believe Mr Ng just wanted his families and friends to live fully every moment with passion and meaning as him.

D

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29-9-11

Eugene,

Have you sent the email to Uncle Ng asking him if he would participate in 10KM Marathon ? No matter you have sent or have not, we will never be able to receive his lovely photos from now on.

Your father couldn't see him gone when his classmates and he rushed to  Shatin Hospital this later afternoon.

Just a few days ago,  we sent our earnest support and concern to him. We sent our sincere appreciation to his passion of photographing as follows:

Dear Samuel,

 

Wong Yan Kit and our whole family here send our best wish for you and are so gratified to see you are positively battling the disease. Meanwhile we enjoy your hobby that brings us so many beautiful views of our nature.

 

Actually nothing is more important then having a positive attitude to life and optimistic view to ourselves. It is the first medicine we need to cure any diseases. I wish we are as positive as you in adversity.

Uncle Ng was one of the kindest and warmhearted persons I had ever seen. He became  my  insurance client as soon as I advised him to purchase an insurance, although he had one or two already. He definitely wanted to give his family the best protection. On top of that, together with his son, they spent half day showing us around  UST in December 2009, boosting  you confidence in getting into this prestige university.

I simply could concentrate on my dance class this evening, I was in deep sorrow for loss of such good friend of our family and one of your husband's  best friends.

Well, what we can do to show our condolence and sorrow for loss of such a good man?

Yesterday I watched an TV interview on Tong's group's vice president, a 29 year-old- young guy. He remembered his father sudden leave that has made an painful impact in his life. It took a long time for him to reshape his mindset, define his position and stand on his own feet from a long term of grieve . His family group was the first investor who tapped into Pu Dong, Shanghai when everyone was still in hesitation. Now he already leads his group to become one of the biggest property investors in Shanghai.

His advice is trying to express love and care to your family whenever you can. Don't leave your thanks and gratitude behind until your loved one has left. No one knows when this will happen and all we can do is to express now and any time a sense of thanksgiving comes to your mind.

A strong sense of living up this moment, care for life and our loved ones stroke me. Nothing is more important than keeping a compassion to life, treasuring our life and our families and friends like Uncle Ng. Even in his last days, he still sent  his blog with passion to travel around the world and take more photos...


Take care!

Mom
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遠離癌症的第一步

遠離癌症的第一步

作者 -- 伊利沙伯醫院臨床腫瘤科唐志聰醫生

人類醫治癌症到目前為止只有兩條路，第一條路是消滅病源，第二條路是增加抵抗力。但很奇怪的是，癌無論用鈷60或其他藥物去消滅癌細胞，可是癌細胞還沒被消滅，好的細胞卻先被殺死。無論用什麼營養、補藥，好的細胞還未吸收，癌細胞卻先吸收、讓癌長得更快；因此可說上述兩條路都行不通、所以叫絕症。

血液檢查的結果顯示癌症病人百分之八十五都是酸性反應。長期素食、且生活接近自然的人，由於體質都偏屬優質弱鹼性，所以很少發現罹患癌症的病例。因此大膽的斷定在弱鹼性體質的狀態下，癌細胞是無法生長，甚至是無法生存的。

建議你從現在起少吃酸性的葷食類，多吃鹼性食物，另外可吃綠藻和帶殼菱角湯， 改變你的體質，並勵行接近自然的良好生活規律。

85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質

＊健康人的血液是成弱鹼性的，約是PH7.35∼7.45左右
＊嬰兒也是屬於弱鹼性的體質
＊成長期的成人有體質酸化的現象。根據一項六百位癌症病人體液分佈的研究顯示，85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質。

因此，如何使體質維持在弱鹼性就是遠離癌症的第一步。

酸性體質的生理表徵：

1.皮膚無光澤。
2.香港腳。
3.稍做運動即感疲勞，一上公車便想睡覺。
4.上下樓梯容易氣喘。
5.肥胖、下腹突出。
6.步伐緩慢、動作遲緩。

1.過度攝取乳酸性食品
a）肉類、乳酪製品與蛋、牛肉、火腿等皆屬於酸性食品。
b）攝取過量的酸性食品血液會傾向酸性而變黏稠，不易流到細血管的末稍，而易造成手腳或膝蓋的冷寒症，以及肩膀僵硬和失眠等。
c）年輕力壯時吃適量的肉類是對的，但老年人則以蔬菜或小魚為宜。

2.生活步調失常會造成 酸性體質
a) 生活步調失常會造成精神與肉體的壓力。
b) 據統計，晚睡者罹患癌症的機率比正常人高出5倍
c)人類本來就活在節奏的世界裡，無法事先儲備睡眠或飲食，也不能夜顛倒。
d）人體內臟受自律神經控制，白天主要是交感神經活動，晚上則由副交感神經工作，若使其錯亂及倒置，就亦百病滋生。

3.情緒過於緊張
a）文明社會會造成的壓力。
b）工作上或精神上的壓力。
c）當一個人承受精神壓力後，一旦緊張鬆弛，時會造成猝死，稱為潛在性副腎皮質機能不全症。

4.肉體的緊張
a）動手術之前應先檢查腎上腺皮質機能是否正常。如果副腎皮質機能較差，或手術壓力遠超過副腎調整功能，則可能造成病人死亡或其他不良影響。
b）若發現病患臉部浮腫，需詳加詢問病史及服藥狀況，為長期服用腎上腺皮質賀爾蒙者，施以針灸要特別注意反應。
c）勞動或運動過度，通宵打牌、開車等壓力都應盡量避免。

常見食物的酸鹼性：

1.強酸性食品：蛋黃、乳酪、白糖做的西點或柿子、烏魚子、柴魚等。
2.中酸性食品：火腿、培根、雞肉、鮪魚、豬肉、鰻魚、牛肉、麵包、小麥、奶油、馬肉等。
3.弱酸性食品：白米、落花生、啤酒、酒、油炸豆腐、海苔、文蛤、章魚、泥鰍。
4.弱鹼性食品：紅豆、蘿蔔、蘋果、甘藍菜、洋蔥、豆腐等。
5.中鹼性食品：蘿蔔乾、大豆、紅蘿蔔、蕃茄、香蕉、橘子、南瓜、草莓、蛋白、梅乾、檸檬、菠菜等。
6.強鹼性食品：葡萄、茶葉、葡萄酒、海帶芽、海帶等。尤其是天然綠藻富含葉綠素，是不錯的鹼性健康食品，而茶類不宜過量，最佳飲用時間為早上。

Dr Hua's Philosophies on family relationship and gratitude

对于感恩,周華山博士认为:

感恩﹐是快樂的泉源﹐是人世間最有智慧的生活態度﹐視一切經歷為上天賜予的禮物。

其實﹐福與禍﹑樂與苦﹐都是心的領受。心懷感恩﹐生機無盡﹐快樂無窮。我們不可能一面感恩﹐同時煩惱和抱怨﹐它們是不能並存的。當我仍然抱怨﹐只因為我尚未懂得感恩。

抱怨﹐猶如吸毒﹐會上癮的﹐越抱怨﹑越痛苦﹐並把痛苦傳給他人。

感恩﹐猶如收禮﹐很快樂的﹐越感恩﹑越快樂﹐並把快樂傳給他人。

感恩﹐不是成功得意時才需要﹔相反﹐痛苦時﹐最需要感恩。當我感恩﹐焦點不再是「我的」痛苦﹑「我的」無奈﹐而是自己所受的恩惠。感恩的起點﹐是「我」﹐過程包括許多個「你」﹐終點成為「我們」。因為有你﹐所以有我。

对于家庭或親密關係出問題问题,周華山博士认为:

 親密關係出問題﹐通常卡死在自己對對方的期望。期望﹐就是對未發生的事﹐預設特定結果。關係裡面的期望﹐不論是我與上司﹑下屬﹑同事﹑家人﹑朋友﹐就是想對方依從我的想法﹐來滿足我的需要。問題是﹐我只可以改變自己﹐不可能改變其他人。當我想改變對方﹐就會讓對方抗拒﹔然後﹐自己可能會失望﹐甚至指責﹕「你不應該這樣」﹐又或者自責﹕「我不應該這樣。」這些所謂「應該」﹐就是把某種想法﹐視為理所當然﹐然後強加對方﹐要「你」接受「我的」想法﹐這種「我對你錯」的自以為是﹐只會破壞關係﹐讓自己受苦﹑無奈。

讓我們體驗到放下期望的價值和喜悅﹐品嘗到盡情創造的巨大力量。真摯坦誠互相尊重和愛惜。掌握到幸福人際關係之道.