Wisdom and knowledge

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Find strength everyday to build up confidence and read constructive ideas from great people to avoid getting lost:

Thoughts from Robert Kirosakyosaki

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The more you go beyond yourself, the more you will become yourself;

The more you lose yourself in loving and serving others, the more you will find yourself;

The more you keep company with those who suffer, the more you will be healed.

-By Princesses Daina

When you feel helpless, help others.

– Aung San Suu Kyi

Wisdom and knowledge

I found a saying that is interesting and inspiring -

To distinguish between wisdom and knowledge -

"Knowledge is often regarded as acquisition of facts, information and skills through experience and education"

"Wisdom implies an understanding of the "cause and effect" of events or decisions taken."

One can be knowledgeable without being wise.

I think one need to become wise from trying, experience and education and refection, not just knowledgeable.

Mom

Positive thinking v.s.aging 正面思维抗衰老

1. 来了一批老人家和我们一起学拉丁舞.我不看好他们会学下去，但原来他们越学越开心,不易放弃。我也开始跟他们玩起来。方知他们是我长期羡慕的那些“不老的年轻人”- 早上的深湾海滩，大浪的瀑布湾都可见到他们的泳装和泳姿，春夏秋冬。
   
   从他们自在的笑容，直挺健硕的身板，向难度挑站的享受，我发现自己好老，好矮，好像在他们身上，找不到“ISSUES”，“困难”和不知哪来的烦恼...
   
   原来年龄已不是学习新东西的借口。
   
   突然意识到，越懂得享受新事物，欣赏新事物的人，越有动力学习，也越有“CHANGING" power.
   
   If we have will, we have ways.
   If you don't want, you have thousands of excuses.
   
   "It's not how good you are; it's how good you want to be!" A book that I read again and again.

   
   

   2. This reminds me an research report and article on the relation between aging and positive thinking:

   
   

   http://easyhealthoptions.com/alternative-medicine/three-easy-ways-to-fight-aging-by-simply-thinking-the-right-thoughts/

   
   

   a.

   In one particular study, performed at the at Brigham and Women’s Hospital (BWH), researchers found that a common form of anxiety, known as phobic anxiety, shaved off protective layers from DNA that are called telomeres.

   b

   If you let cranky family members, rude cab drivers or even silly talking heads on television stress you out, you may be doing damage to your cellular DNA that is aging you faster.

   Dodge Dementia With Attitude Adjustment
   Your telomeres aren’t the only part of your body that benefits from pointing your thoughts in the right direction. Your mental capacity also can fight off the effects of aging if you embrace a younger attitude.
   Research at the University of Exeter in England shows that your attitude toward aging has a significant impact on your vulnerability to dementia. This study found that when seniors see themselves as older, their performance on a standard dementia screening test declines dramatically. Considering yourself as “over the hill” makes you five times more likely to meet the criteria for dementia.
   The scientists studied 68 people aged between 60 and 70 years, who were primed to either feel older or younger than others taking part in the study. Those in the “older” group were told that participants ranged in age from 40 to 70, encouraging them to think of themselves as being at the older end of the age spectrum. Those in the “younger” group were told that participants’ ages ranged from 60 to 90 years, encouraging them to think of themselves at the lower end of the age spectrum.
   When the participants completed a standard dementia screening test, 70 percent of people who were encouraged to see themselves as older and to believe that aging was associated with a general decline in ability met the criterion for dementia. This was compared to only 14 percent in the other groups.
   In other words, these people’s relationship to brain dysfunction was altered simply by their attitude.
   Exeter researcher Catherine Haslam says: “Our research shows that the effect of age perceptions on performance can be dramatic, and that seeing oneself as ‘older’ significantly increases a person’s risk of being diagnosed with dementia on such tests.”
   
   c.
   
   In research at a meditative retreat, the scientists found that meditators experienced more perceived control (over one’s life and surroundings), mindfulness (being able to observe one’s experience in a nonreactive manner) and purpose in life (viewing one’s life as meaningful, worthwhile and aligned with long-term goals and values). In addition, they enjoyed decreased neuroticism, or negative emotionality.
   Many experts have pointed out that the most effective pharmacy is the one located between your ears. Healthy thoughts and emotions encourage the secretion of healthy natural chemicals in your body that fight aging and boost immunity while fending off disease. Instead of drinking from the fountain of youth, try thinking from it.

   
   

   
   

「陰影就是力量」

Last night I went to  华山博士的"Shadow Is Power"


Last night talk on “Shadow is Power” by Wah Shan was an enlighting moment as my dark shadow suddenly brighten up a lot.

A real change only takes place when our darkness is touched and accessed and heart to heart talked by ourselves. A turning point will appear only when one is humble enough to face our vulnerability and denial darkness parts. 

Shadow is projection of something, fears, big self-ego, greediness, hatred, anger, all negative emotions.

In a dream, you become a butterfly or a butterfly becomes you.
华山说，梦的所有人都是自己。

Take full self- responsibility first and make right choice after wake up from dreams.
Pure mind see pure things and impure mind sees impure thing.
By criticizing and complaining others is the usual behavior of denying shadow. The more denying, the more bad dreams attack you.
 

Facing and embracing own vulnerability is the only exit of life. This is a transformation power created by 容格 one hundred years ago.

所有在此刻没有接受自己的部分就是阴影。所有矛盾都是自己与自己的矛盾。



I had a breakthrough feeling when Wah Shan applied the theory of SHADOW IS POWER to the three brave guys who dared to face and dig up their shadow in front of the audience. I start to have deeper understanding on PERCEPTION is PROJECTION and law of attraction and the relation between thoughts and reality.


Two shadows of mine creates my emotions reoccurring ...

why do i so upset by others' big ego, jealous emotion and people who tend to  reject of others' help all because of Big Self.

Practice:
How  to face shadow:
1
self searching
a / if I have some hated and unforgiving issues that break your heart once in u life? Damaging effect that u cannot forgive yet.

b/ if u hate something or someone but you tend to be resemble to their behavior when u see anyone has similar  behavior to u? Tooth with tooth.

c/ jealousy or less confidence in self

2
a/ by forgiving process: Put u foot in other shoe. or flying higher above u self and see them ,hear  them and understand their situations.

b/ by thinking what is the consequence if u behavior is like them :loss vs loss
c/ to love self  more by picking up all strength: to recall all amazing moment, most proud moment and happiest moment you have ever had in your life.

2 once we see ourselves in the shadow, we can make right or better choices and

3
每天提醒自已:为自已所有成果和后果负责任。只有爱自已，才会将爱变成自由。将真爱与自由带给别人。
4阴阳平衡:一句道出人生大部分的问题都是失去平衡。人体酸碱失调导致疾病. 人生的最高峰不是最高点,而是平衡点.。




I think i am not confident enough and I cannot fulfill my dreams and then I don't want to see my loved ones have the same problems. To love self is to appreciate self,dig out the strength buried in the deep subconsciousness world that we can  vividly recall them in our childhood, young ages and dreams; face self weakness and vulnerability and get connection with others so that i will not complain but to empathize instead.

Finally, we /I must take responsibility of ourselves. Always try to reach  Win - win  consequence with love and humor.
Every one is an individual with their own history,background and Character. If i want others to improve But forget  to  take care of their ego, i  will be damaging their confidence.

Suddenly i am thinking about what Wah Shan says:real love is set both free. Easy said but hard done. A life learning for  people is to learn loving self.

  A beauty self from inside out : your health,wealth and happiness and success and significant life is starting from shaping this self.



I feel so proud for Wah Shan'award for his great contribution to the society , and DP. i consider myself as a half volunteer when sharing.

Thank Jonathon the coach, and Eva. J and i discussed in a rather deeper level of human character. i liked this insightful chat and learned from his improvement.

Cheer!

Purity  = Happiness = Love
let us wash away all fearful emotion and be pure and daring as a baby.

 I like WahShan saying:
不愛自己﹐對他人的愛﹐只會是一種索取。
生命唯一的出路﹐就是面對。接納陰影﹐是成功的密碼﹕
愈抗拒虛偽﹐我就愈虛偽；接納虛偽﹐就會長出真誠。
愈抗拒恐懼﹐就愈恐懼；接納恐懼﹐就會長出勇氣。
唯獨我與陰影做好朋友﹐我才是真實完整的人。


「陰影就是力量」工作坊
我最想改變他人的﹐就是我最想逃避面對的﹐通常會投射出去﹐變成「他人的問題」。
投射機制﹐在生活裡無處不在﹕我如何對待他人﹐正好反映我如何對待自己。對他人有多接納﹐就代表對自己有多接納。當我批判自己﹐就會不斷批判 他人。
不愛自己﹐對他人的愛﹐只會是一種索取。
生命唯一的出路﹐就是面對。接納陰影﹐是成功的密碼﹕
愈抗拒虛偽﹐我就愈虛偽；接納虛偽﹐就會長出真誠。
愈抗拒恐懼﹐就愈恐懼；接納恐懼﹐就會長出勇氣。
唯獨我與陰影做好朋友﹐我才是真實完整的人。
這個工作坊﹐讓我們品嘗到「陰影」的巨大力量﹐掌握到化解陰影﹑面對逆境的竅門。
日期﹕2012年11月10日
時間: 晚上8:00-10:30
導師﹕周華山博士

博士儿子 v. 博士的妈妈

8-11-2012 晴报

Complains v.s. happiness 抱怨越多,幸福越少

The less complains and more solutions on problem solving we have, the happier we will be.
抱怨越多,幸福越少

Dalai Lama

When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us. When our community is in a state of peace, it can share that peace with neighbouring communities and so on. When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to de­velop inner happiness and peace.

看“访问最佳男主角Tony Leung 梁朝伟” 的启迪

五届金像影帝，原来电视电影内的发挥成为他情緒发泄和舒发的的最好渠道。

以前不懂表达爱意，不知如何和妈妈沟通，一生中只見过爸爸三次，現在感到太遗憾。但不能再有遗恨。故他现在爭取時間和家人，毌亲沟通。

至小父母离异，由母亲带大他和妹妹，在非常艰苦的环境家庭長大，15岁已出来工作，他没有怨言。没有抱怨父母，反而因為此为自已懂得照顧自已和别人感到欣慰。逆境令人成长的更茁壮，更懂得珍惜和更有同理心。


与嘉玲一起二十多年了,仍互相欣赏对方。他的秘密:送礼物给太太時是让她自已去发現，任何地方都可能藏有礼物。

真是很特别，也反映伟仔的内谏的一面。原来，演戏和真人完全是是两个世界。

他们来自两个不同的世界，有着切然不同的性格，但彼此能互相尊重，体谅，给与对方空间，令我明白：

Real love is to set other part free , meanwhile to learn from each other,  and grow up with each other to the end of life.

5-11-2012

谢霆锋 成长的启示

不是每个人一开始就知道自己的天份和方向。 凭着对演艺的热爱，尝试不同的角色，摩练自己，更尝试制作，今天，他不仅是最佳男主角，更是成功的CEO，员工心中有爱心，同理心的好BOSS。

If you haven't found your direction, keep finding, never settle. ( Steve Jobs)

Her is my experiences:

If you have not found  your direction, do your best each day to well prepare yourself. There are plenty chances for people with passion to learn and to improve. The most important thing is you love learning and trying. This is the biggest strength beyond anything else.

When you do your best on improve yourself, you are already on the way to find your strength and nothing to worry about for tomorrow. Robert Kiyasaki says: Learning is not from right answers but only from making mistakes and learning from them.

LI Ka Sheng's quotes:

1. 超卓的人，看別人的經驗，可以為自己借鑑；
   聰明的人，自己親身經歷過後，可以汲取教訓；
   普通的人，親身經歷過多次後，終於找到問題；
   愚笨的人，一錯再錯，一犯再犯，始終不知道自己到底出了什麼問題。

   
   

   找尋一個值得你學習的標的，然後把他當成競爭對手一樣分析，但不是要你去跟他競爭，而是要你想想，你要怎麼樣做才能跟他一樣贏得機會，你要怎麼樣才能做的跟他一樣好，訂好計畫，努力的實踐。

   
   

   Chris Howard says:

   
   

   All learning is within subconsciousness, within a deep change. Conscious learning is short-lived and not stay long.

   
   

   5-11-2012