Reflection on NLP courses by Christ Howard Team
Part 6: How to apply Meta-program to build a better personality?
ENNEAGRAM is a modeling of characters in which, nine types of characters are found based on the way how a person makes them fulfilled.( In this system, I am rather a helper and peacemaker.)
Similarly, meta-program is to analyze the tendency of a person’s thinking and behavior based on the mindset, beliefs and values and all internal filters. In this system, I’m in the middle or bias a bit to one side but not extreme except I am IN TIME person most of the time.
In the ancient theory – ENNEAGRAM, a person’s character is more or less determined by birth and inherent, meta-program is more flexible and content/context oriented. In different case, a person can have a different meta-pattern or tendency to think or behave. As they are building blocks of Personality, they are able to improve or alter from environment to environment in this sense intentionally.
To improve personality, we need to understand the strengths and weaknesses in each category of a person’s meta-programs:
In the Principle meta-program, a sensor person is a doer; he will experience first rather just think or imagine what will happen; they like to go to details, while an intuitor prefer to perceive the possibilities, the relationships and meanings of experiences and tends to see things in outline. A mixture will be more completed to be a person with a better personality.
In terms of thinking and feeling, a thinker tends to think objectively, impersonally and to consider causes and events that leads to decision because they are able to dissociate themselves from an event. They will consider causes and consequence of an event. Feelers are associated and tend to look through their own eyes and make judgments personally and subjectively. They usually weigh the value of choices based on their past and on how these values matter to others.
The overuse of dissociation will cause a lack of empathy, "inability" to connect well in relationships, limited awareness of one's own emotions, or a loss of joy and passion for life. However, overuse of association may not able to manage in work under pressure and stress.
The overuse of association will tends to lead a person gets "stuck" in a perceptual position which is unpleasant, painful, inappropriate, confused, or in some other way negative. People with strong skills in associating, but relatively weak skills in disassociating, may be more likely to use external substances, ritualized behaviors or excessive means to help them disassociate from their experience -- rather than internal skills in moving between perceptual positions.
A judger wants to run his own life and prefers to live in a decisive, planned and orderly way. They aim to control and regulate events. A perceiver wants to let his life happen and will prefer to live life in a spontaneous, flexible way. They aim to understand life and adapt to it. The former judge time seriously and the later tend to be unpunctual.
In the secondary meta-programs, regarding motivation filter, a toward person tends to be motivated by rewards, praise, positive feedback and future goals. An 'Away from' person is motivated more by threats, fear of failure, or avoiding negative possibilities.
The brighter side of toward type is they are very initiative and positive. But their goals may be not realistic and their motivation will be affected by the unwanted details and results and give up eventually. It can lead a person to make decisions potentially risky, not perceiving or recognizing pitfalls and obstacles which could prevent a goal from being reached
The away person has no big goals usually, sees things with negative filters and keep negative memory more than positive, despite the fact that many good things did occur. Likewise, they may come to expect negative events to occur in the future.
An ideal meta-programmed person should be balanced between the two extreme personalities. This is proved by many successful and generally happy people. In short, “Dream for the best, be prepared for the worst." Be optimistic and realistic, down to the earth and focusing on goals that are reachable but can also big.
So, how to change to be a better programmed person or to be with an ideal personality?
To take ecological check on your old personality and determine what the desirable personality you want. Aim the target and put in into action.
Be an action taker because successful people are all action takers.
To me, the biggest issue is taking action...
Reference: http://www.nlpls.com/articles/metaPrograms.php
Picture: http://www.philippinesalawikain.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/01/personality11.bmp
No comments:
Post a Comment