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Monday, June 11, 2012
访问李旺陽;悼念李旺陽
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Thursday, June 7, 2012
Freedom v.s. Forgiving
Dear Red,
Before we went to your place that early morning, I had a meditation led by FORGIVING PROCESS. It is a DVD of Chris Howard, one of my mentors and NLP gurus. I wrote my refection and brought with me to the bus stop, intending to share and discuss in our gathering.
Your favorite interpretation on freedom reminds me of my thoughts - Forgiving vs. freedom:
Forgiving is to either to let the relationships that don't serve us any longer GO or to see it in a New way:
Chris told us a story about a father whose son died for some years. The father had been having recurring nightmares, seeing his son standing on a top of mountain, carrying two heavy buckets sadly. The father didn't dare to speak with his son for the first three days. The last day, he finally spoke to him, "Son, why are you still here? " His son replied, it is the two buckets filled with your tears stopping me move."
The profound story will linger in my brain time and time again for years to come. I realized forgiving oneself is ultimately to set ourselves free.
FORGIVING PROCESS is to cut the tie with damaging issues - issues with enemy, parents, friends, partners and anyone, even with "unhappy” jobs, careers, study and our diseases.
Forgiving is not to give up. Instead, it is to unload any negative, destructive emotions so as to move forward; to charge oneself with positive, constructive energy and see old relationship with a completely new perspective.
It is a process to set us free from our own prison and seek for new opportunities, resources, t move forward for happiness. Forgiving others is ultimately to forgive ourselves.
With forgiving, we can find our potential is beyond any certain limit - "zero limitation"
After Zero Limitaton Talk by Wah Shan, every night, just before I go to my dreamland, I imagine myself in a flying balloon drifting higher and higher, looking down, I find myself, my family and everything, even the world, they are So small...thousands of rivers running to the seas...so many ways open to me...
When I say repeatedly to myself:
I am sorry;
I love you;
I thank you.
In minutes, my pains in my body, stress seems to vanish;
I feel deeply relaxed and I fall in asleep, drifting to a world of unlimited imaginations.
That is one of my feelings of freedom...
If we really want to be loved, to love truly, to be happy, learn to forgive.
Before we went to your place that early morning, I had a meditation led by FORGIVING PROCESS. It is a DVD of Chris Howard, one of my mentors and NLP gurus. I wrote my refection and brought with me to the bus stop, intending to share and discuss in our gathering.
Your favorite interpretation on freedom reminds me of my thoughts - Forgiving vs. freedom:
Forgiving is to either to let the relationships that don't serve us any longer GO or to see it in a New way:
Chris told us a story about a father whose son died for some years. The father had been having recurring nightmares, seeing his son standing on a top of mountain, carrying two heavy buckets sadly. The father didn't dare to speak with his son for the first three days. The last day, he finally spoke to him, "Son, why are you still here? " His son replied, it is the two buckets filled with your tears stopping me move."
The profound story will linger in my brain time and time again for years to come. I realized forgiving oneself is ultimately to set ourselves free.
FORGIVING PROCESS is to cut the tie with damaging issues - issues with enemy, parents, friends, partners and anyone, even with "unhappy” jobs, careers, study and our diseases.
Forgiving is not to give up. Instead, it is to unload any negative, destructive emotions so as to move forward; to charge oneself with positive, constructive energy and see old relationship with a completely new perspective.
It is a process to set us free from our own prison and seek for new opportunities, resources, t move forward for happiness. Forgiving others is ultimately to forgive ourselves.
With forgiving, we can find our potential is beyond any certain limit - "zero limitation"
After Zero Limitaton Talk by Wah Shan, every night, just before I go to my dreamland, I imagine myself in a flying balloon drifting higher and higher, looking down, I find myself, my family and everything, even the world, they are So small...thousands of rivers running to the seas...so many ways open to me...
When I say repeatedly to myself:
I am sorry;
I love you;
I thank you.
In minutes, my pains in my body, stress seems to vanish;
I feel deeply relaxed and I fall in asleep, drifting to a world of unlimited imaginations.
That is one of my feelings of freedom...
If we really want to be loved, to love truly, to be happy, learn to forgive.
7-6-2012
http://powradhwani.blogspot.hk/2012/01/gods-plan-for-happy-marriage-by-c.htmlWednesday, June 6, 2012
FREEDOM IS...
Talk with Professor Chan, I found one cannot control the events, but can control their response, mindset, emotion. It is our response, mindset, emotion that design our destiny, not events.
How to set ourselves free? Embarrassing challenges and difficulties is the only way to be free.
6-6-2012
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How to set ourselves free? Embarrassing challenges and difficulties is the only way to be free.
6-6-2012
A day with Professor Red Chan
Dear Red,
This visit will be an unforgettable experience in our lives .
Eugene has never been so relaxed to share his inner world with you and me.
I was deeply moved by your passion and wonderful communication skills,
setting a comfortable environment for my son searching for his soul and guiding him to taste a deep self-reflection time.
Your new flat and your design impressed us so much as well, comfy, practical, and the view is absolutely stunning, night view must be even more spectacular.
We thank you again for sharing with us your childhood and
remarkable experience. I found Eugene got lots of resonance from your
experience, partly because of our parents’ faults and the system. Fortunately
my childhood was much happier and carefree to some extent.
I started to believe my son will grow up to be a happy, compassionate
and responsible person when taking more practice with NLP and “Dreams Possible”
tools.
We are grateful for your help and your time, indeed.
Donna Thanks for reminding me about taking action and leading. I forget that sometimes.
Eugene
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Seaching for ourselves
The seed of Greatness – session one 19-5-2012
Dear B,
I found you are a very expressive guy when you are in group situations.
Last night was a breakthrough for me to know you better. First, I am amazed to hear you express your feelings about your reflection on Dr Lin’s first talk on Sees of Greatness. That is the fundamental value of a family is LOVE –parents’ unconditional love to children is the most important assets to them. I couldn’t agree more
I am grateful to know the conversation on Google
Chat in last several months were a crucial support to you and the only and best
bridge between our hearts. Every day I was waiting for you to say Hi, Mom, I am
fine or I can manage and I still remember that you said you were facing so many
challenges and you were accustomed yourself to them, despite the toughness. At
that time, I was moved to tear up. Father was happy to know that as well.
The chats also became a channel for you to release
your emotion, sharing your learning and priceless experiences. If you could elaborate
a bit clearly, it would have been much easier for me to understand your status
instead creating confusion and unnecessary worry and fear, esp. without emails
and tel to understand the whole situations sometimes. So you can imagine being
the listener and receiver, so as to try the best English or even Chinese to
present your ideas. Presentation skills are to show your ability of convincing others
and influence others, but in the first place to minimize communication
troubles.
You as our son and our best friend, me as your mother and friend and listener, we will always support each other on the journey to grow up at different phrases of life.
I realized that physical ageing is inevitable but
youth mindset is eternal if we are curious like Andrew, care for others like Mother
Teresa; relentlessly dream big and live up with dreams like Steve Jobs.
Regarding the special test that I have never heard before, I will keep an open mind to dig up its mechanism and to discover myself although I also have doubt in it. That is why I would try myself to find out. But I have learnt from real experiences after the test and changes bring to them, free released and much relaxed, easier during study and work. It indicates the shining areas that we can develop with full potential and weak areas that need adjustments so that we can shape our character for better.
Hopefully, it can cut way shorter to find one-self
and meaning of life by treasuring our gift talents that everyone has.
I have leant various theories about human
character…, this is completely different, without any outside factors’ impact. Intriguing.
I will keep a peaceful mind to face myself in the assessment, accept myself, thank myself and change for better. It is a wonderful experience to see oneself if we stand from an objective prospective. I am sure it will show I am not alone in terms of weakness and I am unique in terms of myself as a human being.
Everyone can be a diamond if it is given chance to polish, to shine. Where is the chance, it is everywhere if we keep aware.
Stay hungry, stay foolish. (Steve Jobs)
Stay open-minded, thus being able to stay young. (
my finding)
B,
Your improvement in maturity, personality, self-management
and social experience from Singapore are impressive. We all agree it was a
turning point in your life.
The thing is you start to put yourself in others’ shoes. Then you will keep many troubles from you and find inner peace by balancing your mind.
For sharing of my findings:
All negative emotions are rooted from fear, i including
worry of failure, hatred and jealousy. Ironically, the greatest fear is fear
itself.
Why fearful? There is an insufficiency in knowledge, awareness of oneself and thus less confidence in oneself. . . But all can be learned if we want to expand our awareness…
The mightiest energy is not physical but psychological
– that is Grace, Love and Gratitude.
A important friend from Dreams Possible
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From: donna wong
Date: Sun, Apr 1, 2012 at 12:21 AM
Subject: Red Chan (大學副教授、牛津大學博士、生命教練)
To: Eugene
B,
http://ln.academia.edu/RedChan
From Red angle, she sees your issue as a gift of life from the heaven. Most people didn't choose a harder way to do projects but only manage to get better marks in U (She has been in U as a professor for many years in UK and HK) but you insisted to challenge yourself DESPITE THE RISK. This was very rare and she appreciated your courage SO MUCH and hopes to have such students in her life. Your requirement to yourself is much higher than normal students.
I should have given you such trust and recognition, but I didn't until now. Terribly sorry. I should not have given your too much expectation which means to give myself too much expectation and pressure, she said to me. This shows I have not enough confidence in you and myself. Her words were very interesting and reflecting. I never thought about this before even though I believed learned so much already.
She said the most important thing is you must have learned much from the independently trying, you will be finding more ways and will be more flexible in future for sure. The results were a tiny thing in whole life, really not too much. But your experiences such as to be an exchange student and to playing Bungee jump without telling us first, all are turning points in your life. If you have courage to try a hard one, you have resources to make it better.
Red has written some books and a life coach as well. She just asked you to write to her and call her ANYTIME, she will be very happy to know you and reply to you. She will very happy to be your friend. You will know her when you are back.
I found in life I really need such coach. And all her help is for free.
Professor Red Chan'sTel: 852-60121827
and her email: red.chan@sant.oxon.org
Good night,
p.s. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.
Mom
_______________________________________________________________________From: donna wong
Date: Sun, Apr 1, 2012 at 12:21 AM
Subject: Red Chan (大學副教授、牛津大學博士、生命教練)
To: Eugene
B,
http://ln.academia.edu/RedChan
From Red angle, she sees your issue as a gift of life from the heaven. Most people didn't choose a harder way to do projects but only manage to get better marks in U (She has been in U as a professor for many years in UK and HK) but you insisted to challenge yourself DESPITE THE RISK. This was very rare and she appreciated your courage SO MUCH and hopes to have such students in her life. Your requirement to yourself is much higher than normal students.
I should have given you such trust and recognition, but I didn't until now. Terribly sorry. I should not have given your too much expectation which means to give myself too much expectation and pressure, she said to me. This shows I have not enough confidence in you and myself. Her words were very interesting and reflecting. I never thought about this before even though I believed learned so much already.
She said the most important thing is you must have learned much from the independently trying, you will be finding more ways and will be more flexible in future for sure. The results were a tiny thing in whole life, really not too much. But your experiences such as to be an exchange student and to playing Bungee jump without telling us first, all are turning points in your life. If you have courage to try a hard one, you have resources to make it better.
Red has written some books and a life coach as well. She just asked you to write to her and call her ANYTIME, she will be very happy to know you and reply to you. She will very happy to be your friend. You will know her when you are back.
I found in life I really need such coach. And all her help is for free.
Professor Red Chan'sTel: 852-60121827
and her email: red.chan@sant.oxon.org
Good night,
p.s. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.
Mom
31-5-2012
Dear Red,
Thanks so much for your appreciation and invitation. It will be a very pleasant, relaxed time for sure...
Maybe, my worry at that moment was a bit from my own imagination You are right. Eugene should have ability to face his own issues. We as parents are happy to find his emotion control is better from the exchange, growing up to a responsible guy. Now he is going to do the FYP. Their group chose an adviser, who is famous for his stringiness, nevertheless, he is relentless for self improvement. The group care much for interesting project, learning rather for marks.
I found DP is a place that we can share and support with heart and soul, which has not felt yet from else anywhere although I have learned many courses in the past ten years.
I told Eugene that me I have met a "long-lost" friend who gives me a sense of being confident, peaceful, stronger, even though I was not yet strong enough.
That is crucial, the most important thing is how we see ourselves. Others' response is usually the image of our own behavior. Perception is projection.
Thanks so much for your appreciation and invitation. It will be a very pleasant, relaxed time for sure...
Maybe, my worry at that moment was a bit from my own imagination You are right. Eugene should have ability to face his own issues. We as parents are happy to find his emotion control is better from the exchange, growing up to a responsible guy. Now he is going to do the FYP. Their group chose an adviser, who is famous for his stringiness, nevertheless, he is relentless for self improvement. The group care much for interesting project, learning rather for marks.
I found DP is a place that we can share and support with heart and soul, which has not felt yet from else anywhere although I have learned many courses in the past ten years.
I told Eugene that me I have met a "long-lost" friend who gives me a sense of being confident, peaceful, stronger, even though I was not yet strong enough.
That is crucial, the most important thing is how we see ourselves. Others' response is usually the image of our own behavior. Perception is projection.
Great! We are looking forward to visiting you.
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