4-4-2011
掌握人生主动权- How to gain control of your own life
How to gain control of your own life? This looks to be a big topic. Nevertheless, if we can live up this idea into our daily life, to gain control of your own life is not far-fetched story but a necessary lifestyle and attitude if one aspires to have more freedom, fun, happiness, rewarding while challenging.
How to gain a control of our own life? Here are some ideas for sharing:
To be flexible:
“Flexibility gain control.” I couldn't agree more. From my daily life and experiences, say how to be punctual for class, appointments by fighting against traffic heavy traffic, I've started to learn from professional driver's skills and tactics, that is to choose the best line from time to time so as to optimize a driving route. We can find a better route based on information, trial and error, mistakes. "Only feedback - no failure. Utilize everything"
As no any best route is not best forever, we have to be flexible. To be flexible enable us to adapt changing and control situations on a constructive way.
If we have a flexible mindset and learn from experiences, we can gain the best route faster and faster.
To be strategic:
Chris Howard says that "We should have no fear about difficulties, problems and challenges but have fear if you don't have right strategies and resources to tackle them."
1) What is a right strategy:
In my understanding, strategy means to find the best methodology to solve problems and to achieve a goal. Everything must have a best way. I remember one of my three-year polytechnics courses was about management on optimization. Despite its being a theory with case studies on industry management, it can be used in our daily life. Strategy is to synergize our resources and power based on a scientific way.
2) How to get a good strategy:
a) By learning from others, reading and self practice
If we do thing with strategy, our efficiency and effectiveness can be improved substantially. As life is short and time is so precious to everyone, if we want make less mistakes and gain maximum results, we need to learn from successful models, including real life experiences, successful cases and mentors. Being open-minded is the first criteria to gain successful strategies. Books, movies and successful people’s real life experiences and our own practice are all the best sources to equip us with the wisdom guru's mindset and learn how to get right strategy subconsciously.
b) By build up a good system:
A good system is a must to to a successful enterprise and a good discipline, habit, lifestyle and working methodology to a successful person. "We are what we repeatedly do; excellence is not a sudden act, but a habit." (Master Results certification)
A typical difference between a successful person and ordinary people is the former is constantly adjusts themselves with a healthier and better lifestyle and habit.
One has to learn from doing things on feelings and emotion to doing things with a workable plan and system during a life journey process.
To be flexible and strategic, one of the most important processes is to make decision. No matter big or small decisions, consequence and responsibility to other and self should be considered - A responsible person will not do things at other's risk or loss at least. Say in driving, to change line recklessly is dangerous to others and drivers’ own lives. Whenever changing line, I should try to make the inconvenient to others to minimum. While to win a traffic, I am ready to give a way to other drives as I also need others to give me a way.
A right strategy is based on a consideration and evaluation on "ecology of outcomes" (Master Results certification)
"Remember ecological framework increases wholeness." (Master Results certification)
In sum, to gain control on our own life, we must be open-minded, flexible and strategic and responsible. While to be a responsible person, one should be an empathetic, understanding person first. Without love, caring and helpful attitude, responsibility is only a meaningless slogan and gain control of our own life is only an illusion.